The Governator's Video game Law Vs. The Supreme Court

[Omgwtfbbqkitten]

Re: The Governator's Video game Law Vs. The Supreme Court

You're going to make a terrible parent.

No, just a mean, cruel and evil one.

[Feba]

Re: The Governator's Video game Law Vs. The Supreme Court

No, just a mean, cruel and evil one.

I am using "terrible" in the "tyranny" sense here.

[Empedocles]

Re: The Governator's Video game Law Vs. The Supreme Court

Such as This pleasant chap, Ivan IV of Russia.

[TheGrandMom]

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I always changed things up depending at what stage my kids were at. For a time my son could not play video games at all during the week and during that time he was able to "earn" time to play on the weekends. He was allotted time for doing chores in a timely manner, for doing homework, not fighting with his sister, etc. Then, as long as he didn't have a major screw up during the week, he'd have time to play video games. He also earned the privilege of having friends over, it was not a given.

Then when he got older and some tactics didn't work as well, I changed the parameters. Sometimes I see parents that still treat their teen to older children like they are still 6. You have to be on top of things and change things up as they grow.

But the one thing that I always did with my kids, was treat them with respect. Don't treat them like they are stupid just because they are kids. You'd be surprised at how much they really know and understand. When you get down on their level and sit and talk to them one on one, you'd be amazed at what you can accomplish with some respect. Parents tend to talk down to their children far too much and its one of the reasons that kids act out.

[ShadowHolyFlyingDragon]

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But the one thing that I always did with my kids, was treat them with respect. Don't treat them like they are stupid just because they are kids. You'd be surprised at how much they really know and understand. When you get down on their level and sit and talk to them one on one, you'd be amazed at what you can accomplish with some respect. Parents tend to talk down to their children far too much and its one of the reasons that kids act out.

You have amazing soft-communication skills. I applaude you.

The -LAST- thing I could ever imagine doing to my nephew (not my kid; will not ever have kids, so will have to enjoy those of my siblings instead apparently) is talking to him like he is a complete moron. That would kill me for him. He never deserves to be brought up in a negative enviorment for as long as he lives with us.

I'm of the opinion that the world is already full of enough negativity, why bring it into your home and your child's upbringing? Why not match the gruesome negativity of the world with your own wonderful positive reinforcement and reproof.

I find that constantly reinforcing my nephew with good words like "great job buddy" and "I love yas" has really brought him super close to me. On the same token, when he goes into the kitchen and throws the cheerioes box all over the floor because he thought it was a big box of rattles (I'm only assuming) he got to sit down right next to me for a while until we discussed that making big messes is not nice. Sure, he fidgited and ran off, cried some, but he had to sit there and play quiet game until he could apologize and we talked about what he did and I explained the proper way to play with things.

He did it a again a few times after (amongst other stuff), but you just keep repeating and reinforcing, being very respectful and kind, but stern. He hasn't done it again.

When my sister and I take him to other people's houses, our friends comment on how well behaved and sweet spirited he is.... and how they can't stand their own children (which is something of an oxymoron again in this situation; you Should be proud of your kids.... not speak negatively to others about them)

[Malacite]

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Parents tend to talk down to their children far too much and its one of the reasons that kids act out.

-. - 24 years old and my mom still acts like a bitch.

[Feba]

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-. - 24 years old

Not if this world is still worth living in.