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Okay, I know that probably I shouldn't bring any of this crap from BG here, but I really wanted to get this off my chest and you guys actually listen to me, it's a more positive environment here and I don't feel the need to keep up with spamming and trolling here like I do on BG, also, it's not really drama so much as it is emo.
Most of you know by now, I quit the game at the beginning of the month. If you didn't, well, you do now. I posted on the linkshell forums that I would not be playing anymore and the reasons (which were many, not going into them here, though none were directly insulting to any one person. I won't lie, I expressed some unhappiness with a few things), sent some people my best wishes, and went to bed. The next day when I woke up I no longer had forum access, so as to the responses to my post, I'll never know. That may or may not be relevant, I'm not sure.
Some backstory.
I've known Chubbs for a long time, since like, 2007 long time. He was in my first Dynamis shell. He left after a while to join Excellence, but I remained friends with him. Through the past couple of years, he'd been one of my best friends in the game. He was someone I could talk to or bitch at without holding back. He's one of the handful of people who really pushed Stan to give me a shot into Excellence. He knows I was really grateful for that.
Well, Stan quit the game a few months ago, and gave linkshell leadership to Chubbs. Some things changed, naturally, but nothing major. He was still a good friend and someone I could bitch to on a regular basis, and was someone I really leaned on when CK quit the game. Things started to change a little, but I still considered him to be my best friend in the game, perhaps really my only friend left in the game.
Well, back up to present, me quitting, I'd still talked to him a few times on MSN, including one recent time where he sent me a screenshot of his mule account with the Byakko's Haidate that more than likely came from the popset we were going to use for my character. I honestly don't care what he did with the set, but it was obvious to me he was trying to get a rise out of me, but it was nothing he wouldn't have done before I quit, giving me a hard time and being a douche, but jokingly. I laughed it off and went about my day.
Well fast forward a few more days, and this goes down in a thread on BG (the one about the credit card bans). I only copied the relevant posts.
Now this really upset me. Clearly he harbors some anger that I quit, but honestly, why did he have to try to be a douche on BG about it? Completely unprovoked, I might add. Trying to make me out to be this horrible person for quitting a game that I no longer found fun, and on top of that, trying to guilt me for someone selling his account.
[SLIGHT TANGENT]Not that I have any control over him with regards to that, by the way, the best I can do is say, "I don't think you should," but at the end of the day, it was his decision and there's nothing I can do to stop him. I didn't agree with it, but he's a grown man and he makes his own decisions.[END TANGENT]
Granted, I still troll BG and I still regularly post at this forum. I still like to read about others' accomplishments and really I like both the community at BG and the community here. I don't see why this is such a big deal, I mean just look at how many people there post but don't play anymore. I just don't understand how someone whom I thought of as a friend, even after I quit, could say something so hurtful and rude. It's true, I had considered coming back to the game (provided I could afford it, things are tight at the moment) but with that kind of attitude, I'm not sure I'd be welcome. If he's talking this kind of shit on BG, what is he saying in the linkshell? What are the other members saying? I shouldn't care about this, but I do. And honestly, I've noticed a pattern, when people quit, the other members talk shit about them. Are we supposed to play indefinitely? Never give it up, never let them down? (lol rick rolled) Seriously ...
It really just got to me, how someone who I thought was a friend of mine just basically made it clear that he's not. I don't care about BG knowing that I quit, I haven't made a huge announcement of it, but it's going to get out eventually, whatever. I don't care about my linkshell knowing that CK sold his account, it's his business. I don't care that people see me posting on BG, even trolling, if you will, because trolling is not only allowed, but encouraged. I do care that he set out to make me look like some horrible person because I quit the game, and cause some stupid drama over me posting on a forum, of all things. One thing I do know is that I will not stop posting on BG just because he says so. There is an ignore feature and he can use it if he's that bothered by it, and I even went ahead and blocked him on MSN to even further assist him in not talking to me/acknowledging my existence if he's so butthurt about me quitting.
And the ironic part about it is that if I could have reactivated my mule account, which was what the post was about in the first place, I would have given some things to linkshell members, including him. So it does matter that the account is banned. I guess not in the grand scheme of things, but I was trying to be nice and that was the whole reason I was upset about the ban in the first place.
I don't expect anything to come of this, but I did want to get it off my chest. I guess it goes to show the color of your pearl, or the game that you play or don't play, actually affects your friendship with someone, instead of just being friends because we were just friends. CK and I can have a relationship without FFXI, I don't see what's so hard about it for others. Did I expect to be BFF with Chubbs or anything? No, but I didn't expect him to write me off because I quit.
Thanks for reading guys. I know I can be a pretty emo mess sometimes, this time is clearly no different, but man did it bum me out to see a long time friend turn on me so quickly.
Discuss, /comfort, tell me I'm idiotic for feeling this way, etc., I needed to vent this.
Most of you know by now, I quit the game at the beginning of the month. If you didn't, well, you do now. I posted on the linkshell forums that I would not be playing anymore and the reasons (which were many, not going into them here, though none were directly insulting to any one person. I won't lie, I expressed some unhappiness with a few things), sent some people my best wishes, and went to bed. The next day when I woke up I no longer had forum access, so as to the responses to my post, I'll never know. That may or may not be relevant, I'm not sure.
Some backstory.
I've known Chubbs for a long time, since like, 2007 long time. He was in my first Dynamis shell. He left after a while to join Excellence, but I remained friends with him. Through the past couple of years, he'd been one of my best friends in the game. He was someone I could talk to or bitch at without holding back. He's one of the handful of people who really pushed Stan to give me a shot into Excellence. He knows I was really grateful for that.
Well, Stan quit the game a few months ago, and gave linkshell leadership to Chubbs. Some things changed, naturally, but nothing major. He was still a good friend and someone I could bitch to on a regular basis, and was someone I really leaned on when CK quit the game. Things started to change a little, but I still considered him to be my best friend in the game, perhaps really my only friend left in the game.
Well, back up to present, me quitting, I'd still talked to him a few times on MSN, including one recent time where he sent me a screenshot of his mule account with the Byakko's Haidate that more than likely came from the popset we were going to use for my character. I honestly don't care what he did with the set, but it was obvious to me he was trying to get a rise out of me, but it was nothing he wouldn't have done before I quit, giving me a hard time and being a douche, but jokingly. I laughed it off and went about my day.
Well fast forward a few more days, and this goes down in a thread on BG (the one about the credit card bans). I only copied the relevant posts.
Originally posted by Aksannyi
Originally posted by HadesChubbs, quoted me
Originally posted by Ohaigaiz, quoted Chubbs
Originally posted by HadesChubbs, quoted Ohaigaiz
Originally posted by Aksannyi, quoted Chubbs' second post
[SLIGHT TANGENT]Not that I have any control over him with regards to that, by the way, the best I can do is say, "I don't think you should," but at the end of the day, it was his decision and there's nothing I can do to stop him. I didn't agree with it, but he's a grown man and he makes his own decisions.[END TANGENT]
Granted, I still troll BG and I still regularly post at this forum. I still like to read about others' accomplishments and really I like both the community at BG and the community here. I don't see why this is such a big deal, I mean just look at how many people there post but don't play anymore. I just don't understand how someone whom I thought of as a friend, even after I quit, could say something so hurtful and rude. It's true, I had considered coming back to the game (provided I could afford it, things are tight at the moment) but with that kind of attitude, I'm not sure I'd be welcome. If he's talking this kind of shit on BG, what is he saying in the linkshell? What are the other members saying? I shouldn't care about this, but I do. And honestly, I've noticed a pattern, when people quit, the other members talk shit about them. Are we supposed to play indefinitely? Never give it up, never let them down? (lol rick rolled) Seriously ...
It really just got to me, how someone who I thought was a friend of mine just basically made it clear that he's not. I don't care about BG knowing that I quit, I haven't made a huge announcement of it, but it's going to get out eventually, whatever. I don't care about my linkshell knowing that CK sold his account, it's his business. I don't care that people see me posting on BG, even trolling, if you will, because trolling is not only allowed, but encouraged. I do care that he set out to make me look like some horrible person because I quit the game, and cause some stupid drama over me posting on a forum, of all things. One thing I do know is that I will not stop posting on BG just because he says so. There is an ignore feature and he can use it if he's that bothered by it, and I even went ahead and blocked him on MSN to even further assist him in not talking to me/acknowledging my existence if he's so butthurt about me quitting.
And the ironic part about it is that if I could have reactivated my mule account, which was what the post was about in the first place, I would have given some things to linkshell members, including him. So it does matter that the account is banned. I guess not in the grand scheme of things, but I was trying to be nice and that was the whole reason I was upset about the ban in the first place.
I don't expect anything to come of this, but I did want to get it off my chest. I guess it goes to show the color of your pearl, or the game that you play or don't play, actually affects your friendship with someone, instead of just being friends because we were just friends. CK and I can have a relationship without FFXI, I don't see what's so hard about it for others. Did I expect to be BFF with Chubbs or anything? No, but I didn't expect him to write me off because I quit.
Thanks for reading guys. I know I can be a pretty emo mess sometimes, this time is clearly no different, but man did it bum me out to see a long time friend turn on me so quickly.
Discuss, /comfort, tell me I'm idiotic for feeling this way, etc., I needed to vent this.
you know you have friends that care, ignore the troll, thats all he is, hes just shown you his real colours.
See, all this bad stuff I keep hearing about endgame seriously makes me want to stay away from it lol. Any "friend" that would say harsh things like that about you was probably never a friend in the first place. If you decide to come back to the game and you wanna switch servers, you got buddies on Leviathan.
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