Ladies: Did the rules change?

[Ellipses]

Re: Ladies: Did the rules change?

You probably wouldn't be as much fun to fuck with if it didn't obviously confuse you so damn much.

[Vyuru]

Re: Ladies: Did the rules change?

Women act too much like men and guess what......men don't like it!

Not all guys. I'm still looking for that demure amazonian japanese girl who'll grab me when I come home from work, throw me onto the kitchen table and have her way with me.

Well, I did find her but she was already taken ; ;

And for the topic at hand, meh, the rules didn't really change IMO.

Generally speaking mind you:

There are alot of women who may not see you as dating material but may see you as one night stand/quick fling material. Especially if you are the "nice guy" who would be perfect to bring home to meet the parents. The women who would be interested in you if that were the case are already hooked up with either bums or other nice guys that they knew since childhood.

Never assume anything at parties because alot of people have the mentality of anything goes when you're drunk. I was at a Santana concert a few months ago where the woman behind me alternated kicking my chair and running her hands through my hair and along my shoulders. The man she was with was not happy to say the least.

Also beware of the older women looking to settle down with the "nice guys" that they scorned in their younger years. Just in general, it seems alot of women have the mindset of have fun until you're 30, then find a nice guy to settle down with.

My mindset is that if they wanted the bad boys when they were in their 20s, they can have them now that they're in their 30s.

I don't know if I'd call the women sluts, or acting slutty. But there are some women who just like to be chased or admired by the guys, and they encourage this behavior until the guy actually asks them out. It might just be that.

General impressions from what you've said:

Woman #1 can't hold her drink well, possibly willing to sleep with you. Also possible that this is just how she acts when she's had something to drink.

Woman #2, you're somewhere between friends and possible dating material if she weren't already seeing someone.

Woman #3 no clue, not enough info to go on.

[Callisto]

Re: Ladies: Did the rules change?

In summation: bitches is trippin'

[Feba]

Re: Ladies: Did the rules change?

Well, I did find her but she was already taken ; ;

GUYS! Polyamory.

[Malacite]

Re: Ladies: Did the rules change?

And the nominees are:

Callisto, for his witty insight to the recent bullshit of some women.

TGM, for calling it like it is.

Feba, for just being Feba.


Cast your votes now!

[Vyuru]

Re: Ladies: Did the rules change?

GUYS! Polyamory.

Not a big fan of that myself.

[Szkol]

Re: Ladies: Did the rules change?

I don't have a ton of dating experience- but I am engaged to the girl I've been with for the past 7 years so I'd like to think I know at least a little bit about this kind of stuff. I'll offer advice where I can.

"Hey, this is .... (the guy sitting behind you). I notice you've been looking over your shoulder at me and applying your makeup. Do you mean anything by that? 'Cause I am available if you'd like to get together for lunch or something."

A couple things good about this statement, a couple bad, IMO. It says that you notice her, and you demonstrate that you're willing to at least make a move on a girl you think is attractive. You'd get more points for asking her out in person though. Girls like to be chased, at least a little bit. On the other end of the spectrum it sort of comes off like you watch her ALL THE TIME. If she knows you and speaks with you and is friendly with you then she knows that you're not that creepy staring guy, but it does come off a little creepy initially.

The other thing about this, which I think is a really really really hard lesson for guys to learn ( i know it gave me hell ) is that you need to realize flirting is not an invitation for sex or relationship, or even in interest of sex or relationship. Some girls flirt just for flirting's sake, and I think this girl is more flirty than into you. As a guy, I can probably speak for most guys when I say we would prefer that girls just not flirt with us at all if they're not interested at all. It's much easier for us to simply understand that flirting with me, means you want me. Unfortunately, that's not the way things are, and things will never be this way.


Woman 2- I don't think you've done anything wrong here, but you must be a nice guy, because she seems very comfortable with you. This is good and bad, because comfortable can put you in the 'friend zone' forever. What makes this hard is that she's seems like the nice girl too, who's may or may not have some feelings for you, but is going to be loyal to her b/f.

Woman 3- Don't really know enough...


Now onto your motives-- If you're looking to get laid keep your eye on girl #1. She seems like the type who's not going to want anything serious right now, and may not be very serious with her B/F.

If you're looking for something more serious stick with girl #2. She's not going to leave her guy for you, but if things ever don't work out, I'd say chances are good that you two could get together, if you're willing to put in some legwork. This means being the comfortable guy still, but bring a little bit of electricity every now and then to make her remember that you're into her. The risk here is that you'll be putting in a lot of time as the dependable and sweet guy friend, and you'll have nothing to show for it. In that case I think you're left with a great female friend for life.

If it doesn't work out with either of those girls, just put your game face on and get out there. I'd say your best bet, though it may sounds lame, is to be honest and communicate clearly. If you're clear about what you're looking for, women will be more clear in their interest for you, in my experience. This doesn't mean you have to spell it out ( "Hey, my name is Well-hung Stud, and I'd like to have sex tonight" -or- "Hello, my name is Caring-Kind-Polite-Respectful Gentleman, and I think you're marriage material."). Be clear, be honest, and be interesting. Do those things and you won't be competing with other guys for a mate, the women will be competing with each other for you.

[eticket109]

Re: Ladies: Did the rules change?

Of course you don't know what women want. Most women don't even know what women want.

[Mystiqsoulchild]

Re: Ladies: Did the rules change?

Here is a simple answer to your question all your problems Men don't know what they want and women don't know what they want and our to picky. It is not that easy in the gay world because you still have guys that want fem guys or guys that want masculine guys. (like me) Then there are those who just want sex (just like some straight people.) There are really a lot of similar things when it comes to gay and straight relationships. Men don't know what the hell they want and neither do girls simple as that!

We are all different in our own ways, men and girls. We all want different things, We all get pissed off when things don't go our way or we get mixed signals, etc...guys are more left brained and girls are more right brained. I think yall get my point. WE ARE DIFFERENT so deal with it!

[Malacite]

Re: Ladies: Did the rules change?

Here is a simple answer to your question all your problems Men don't know what they want and women don't know what they want and our to picky.

I don't know about that. I've got a pretty damned good idea of what I want. Most people do when they get older I think.

[Mystiqsoulchild]

Re: Ladies: Did the rules change?

I don't know about that. I've got a pretty damned good idea of what I want. Most people do when they get older I think.

My parents know what they want from each other but at times they don't know what they want from themselves, even as you get older you don't really fully understand what you want from yourself. That is why we are alive is to understand ourselves. As you get older you change, you might know what you want right now, but who's to say you wont know as you get older and age? (it is our job to figure that out, and also to figure out the person that we are with at that place and time.)