Moving out soon

[Tipsy]

So like in December I'll be moving out to live in a 4 bedroom house with 2 roomies. The house is already paid for, as is the electric, cable, everything. So no need to fret. I'll have enough for food and a car and full support of the family that I have in the area. Everything is pretty much paid for, if there was anything to go wrong. But, I'll be 2k miles away from my parents.

I'm really excited and I almost can't wait!

I just don't want to nerve-out on the day I leave. Anyone got any tips? Anyone who has moved out on their own, lives on their own.. etc?

Do you like it?


What can I think of in the cab ride to the airport that will calm my nervousness? And emotional connections with my parents?


It's much appreciated.

[Jarre]

Re: Moving out soon

Its a big step into the wide world tipsy and it wont be easy for the first few weeks.

You are lucky your moving into a hosue that has everythign but food paid for, so your first step outside of your home is a more easier one with no cash cocnerns with regard to teh house to worry about.

Now yes, you have soent all your life with your parents so you will get homesick, theres nothing wrong with that as its a big emotional step.

A few things you can do to make it a little easier.

Have a photo in your bedroom, you'd be amazed how much comfort you get from that. also don't be affraid to talk to your parents on the phone (or internet, its a modern world!) they wills till be there to give you advice, comfort etc.

Next enjoy your freedom. Until you go it alone, you don't realise how constrained you are at home and how much less being yourself you are. Now when you move out, you will be making lots of decissions which effect you without having your parents to fall back on. Now this is both an advantage and disadvantage, so you just have to be more aware of your actions.

No more secret love making, but just be aware, your hosue mates do not want to hear you banging away at 3am when they ahve college in the morning.

You will need to domesticate yourself, now I knw how bad batchelor pads get and I'm not saying everything should be spotless, but having your own penecilin farm and having to wade through dust is not good, there needs to be a certain level and make sure everyone in the house helps out, don't let yourself be the "domestic maid" in the house as other will take advantage of it.

If you are leaving some good friends behind, DON'T LOOSE TOUCH WITH THEM!! some of your long term friends will keep as friends as long as you make an effort. I still have 2 friends I have known for 23 years and I'm 28, so that gives you an idea as I moved out a while agao as well as being in boarding school and at university.

You just need to get it in your head that there are 2 other people in teh house, so you are not on your own. Class this as a fresh start, you make new friends, do new things and most of all enjoy it, its freedom, its the next step to maturity and adulthood and you need to get used to it as you have a whole life ahead of this. The older you are, the harder it is so starting this early will benefit you.

Don't forget, you have an extended family here should you need to talk to someone about it.

Its a bit easier for you than some as you aready have family in the area.

[Feba]

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What can I think of in the cab ride to the airport that will calm my nervousness?

any thoughts you have are likely to lead you back to worrying. my advice:

THINKING IS BAD.
DS ARE AWESOME.

[Tipsy]

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Don't forget, you have an extended family here should you need to talk to someone about it.

Wow that makes me want to tear up.

Thanks alot for those words of advice also, it really means alot.



And I can't believe I'm saying this:


Thanks Feba,
In your own weird way that kind of helped.

[MrMageo]

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Um best advice I can offer.

Dont make a long good bye. Just bite the bullet and do it.

I know when I went cross country on my move to an area with no family it helped I just gave the mom a hug the dad a handshake and went through airport security. It helped alot made me feel more capable of being by myself.

Another suggestion I have, when you start feeling homesick sometimes moms voice is all it takes to make you feel better. Calling home can save you a trip,

If that doesn't help my friend Jack is a great listener, talk to him when ever your feeling down.

here is his address you can learn all about him.

jackdaniels.com

[The Mauva Syndicate]

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Well, Im not gonna be able to give you great advice as by the time I was able to move away from the Insane Clown Posse (erm, Mom and Dad) I never looked back.

But my Brothers are still really close to our mother, even if I haven't spoken to Cruella in years (thankfully).

For me, it was as if I had been granted parole from years in prison. But it may be different if you have human parents. or something.

[Tipsy]

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All such great advice, thanks it's really helping me alot.

I love you guys!

[Caspian]

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Just remember that this wasn't a spur of the moment decision and that you have the support of your family. Chances are its not going to be easy, is not supposed to be, and you will have moments of regret. Just know that you made the right decision and stick with it. It will get easier. Like Jarre said, when those moments kick in and you start to freak, call mom.

[DieselBoy09]

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Honestly, I had no trouble moving out, but then again my family constantly chips away at my sanity. The best thing I can say is just do it, and don't over think. You're moving and will come back from time to time. Everything will be alright.

[TheGrandMom]

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I think the indecision and discomfort comes from the fact that his security will be ripped away. He'll be raw and vunerable and no one will be there to pick him up if he falls. It's scary going out into this big wide world of ours.

But think of the other hand Tipsy, staying safe and having that security means you will sacrifice so many new adventures that are out there. When you were 2, the sidewalk opened up so many avenues of adventure to you. You'd take off with a shot the first chance you got to see what was down it. Then a crack in the sidewalk would trip you up and you fall down and skin your knee. Thats how life is. You can either run back home or get up, have a little cry, get up and dust yourself off and see what new adventure awaits.

Going home doesn't mean you've failed either. Sometimes you need to recharge in order to have enough energy to tackle the world again, as long as you don't huddle under the security of being there and make excuses not to leave. The time that is lost cowering under the safety and comfort can never be regained. Regret is the hardest thing to come to terms with in life....live your life with no regrets.

There are just too many wonderful things out there to experience and see. Don't pass up this opportunity, revel in it and enjoy it. Just remember, everyone falls down so just pick yourself back up and get back on that sidewalk.

[Tipsy]

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Thank you all so much, again, it really means alot. You're right, I'll never experience life or anything it has to offer if I'm trapped within the confines of my parents rules and whatnot! We only have one life to live, so why not make the best of it. I hate taking things for granted and I'd rather experience things than assume the worst and hide in my bedroom.

Again, thanks alot!