What's your pet peeve in RL?

[Yellow Mage]

Re: What's your pet peeve in RL?

I'm pretty sure caffeine is addictive, so it isn't surprising that you'd experience withdrawal symptoms.

Ooh, that. I've quit on caffeine such a long time ago. Whenever I have a soda (or any drink), I always make sure that it's one without the dang stuff.

[Aksannyi]

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Ah, healthcare...

I just gotta say. Horizon Advantage EPO blows. I'm trying to find a counselor of some sort. Only 3 behavioral health specialists take my insurance within a 50 mile radius.

I'm insured with the VA. Just I'm not at the eligibility status for dental care. Haven't asked about eye care, either, which I'm sure I'm not eligible for, because quite honestly, the only two things wrong with me are my teeth and my eyesight.

[Firewind]

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Go Aks! You can do it! Replace soda with booze! .

Hey that's how I did it.

It's also how I coped with healing pick up groups as a White Mage.

[Ketaru]

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I'm going to see a psychologist this Friday. And hopefully for more than just a few sessions.

I'm kind of a mess. I think I've become attached to those board game friends because they keep my mind busy. When I'm alone again, I keep on recycling old, depressing thoughts. The thought of just going to bed at night is horrible because, once I'm just lying there, all I have left to do is think about unpleasant thoughts. One of which is a persistent thought telling me the world is better off without me. Or that I just frustrate others and drive them crazy. That people are wary of me on good day, and just barely tolerate me on bad ones. The only thing worse than going to bed at night is the thought of waking up in the morning. Because then the recurring theme is "What's the point?" When I go to work and am left alone in the group home, I pace around my office talking to myself. Invariably, I say the most critical and upsetting things.

When I am around them, they have all noted that I'm anxious and have all asked me to lighten up. Thing is, they are actually just a few in a long list of people who have told me I need to relax more. My best friend has been telling me forever that I worry too much...and by "forever", I mean since he's known me since high school. My supervisors are constantly telling me not to worry about some things. I hear my staff sometimes telling each other that I looked stressed out again.

The bartender looked at me last night and asked me why I don't smile a bit whenever I order a drink from him, that this should be the most relaxing night of the week for me. I confided in him that I don't have a relaxing night, ever, and that I was finally looking for professional help. That I was talking to him calmly wasn't so much because I was calm, but because I have just become exhausted from everything. There have been at least 2 occasions in the past where the idea of seeking professional help was suggested to me, but I have dismissed it both times. Somebody finally talked some sense into me last Thursday though and pretty much laid out for me how warped my approach to relating to others was. I'm also a chronic apologizer and say "Sorry" to everything and nothing- another thing people have been calling me out on since high school. The couple that told me I was mistaken in the way I was trying too hard to be friends with people kept insisting that people knew I was well intentioned and that there was no need to apologize...and I still gave in to the overwhelming urge to apologize to them.

I think, if there is one thing I really hate about my situation, it's that I just know a thought I may be having is irrational, yet I persist in thinking it anyway. I left my friends last night hating them. I don't know why, but at the time, the logic going through my head made perfect sense. I hated them as I drove home. I hated them as I went to bed. And I hated them when I woke up. It wasn't until I got to work and was among my staff and residents that I thought about it and said to myself, "Why the hell have I been thinking that all this time?" And my hatred just dissipated. But I'm still disturbed that I felt it in the first place. I don't know why it took so long, but I finally feel like I'm sick.

[DakAttack]

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I think, if there is one thing I really hate about my situation, it's that I just know a thought I may be having is irrational, yet I persist in thinking it anyway. I left my friends last night hating them. I don't know why, but at the time, the logic going through my head made perfect sense. I hated them as I drove home. I hated them as I went to bed. And I hated them when I woke up. It wasn't until I got to work and was among my staff and residents that I thought about it and said to myself, "Why the hell have I been thinking that all this time?" And my hatred just dissipated. But I'm still disturbed that I felt it in the first place. I don't know why it took so long, but I finally feel like I'm sick.

Intrusive thoughts usually accompany anxiety and panic and are definitely a hassle. For me, it felt like they they didn't belong to me, but, for whatever reason, I was thinking them anyways and there was nothing I could do to stop them. It was aggravating when people told me to calm down or think logically, because they didn't understand that it wasn't under my control.

[Hondatwo]

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I'm going to see a psychologist this Friday. And hopefully for more than just a few sessions.

I'm kind of a mess. I think I've become attached to those board game friends because they keep my mind busy. When I'm alone again, I keep on recycling old, depressing thoughts. The thought of just going to bed at night is horrible because, once I'm just lying there, all I have left to do is think about unpleasant thoughts. One of which is a persistent thought telling me the world is better off without me. Or that I just frustrate others and drive them crazy. That people are wary of me on good day, and just barely tolerate me on bad ones. The only thing worse than going to bed at night is the thought of waking up in the morning. Because then the recurring theme is "What's the point?" When I go to work and am left alone in the group home, I pace around my office talking to myself. Invariably, I say the most critical and upsetting things.

When I am around them, they have all noted that I'm anxious and have all asked me to lighten up. Thing is, they are actually just a few in a long list of people who have told me I need to relax more. My best friend has been telling me forever that I worry too much...and by "forever", I mean since he's known me since high school. My supervisors are constantly telling me not to worry about some things. I hear my staff sometimes telling each other that I looked stressed out again.

The bartender looked at me last night and asked me why I don't smile a bit whenever I order a drink from him, that this should be the most relaxing night of the week for me. I confided in him that I don't have a relaxing night, ever, and that I was finally looking for professional help. That I was talking to him calmly wasn't so much because I was calm, but because I have just become exhausted from everything. There have been at least 2 occasions in the past where the idea of seeking professional help was suggested to me, but I have dismissed it both times. Somebody finally talked some sense into me last Thursday though and pretty much laid out for me how warped my approach to relating to others was. I'm also a chronic apologizer and say "Sorry" to everything and nothing- another thing people have been calling me out on since high school. The couple that told me I was mistaken in the way I was trying too hard to be friends with people kept insisting that people knew I was well intentioned and that there was no need to apologize...and I still gave in to the overwhelming urge to apologize to them.

I think, if there is one thing I really hate about my situation, it's that I just know a thought I may be having is irrational, yet I persist in thinking it anyway. I left my friends last night hating them. I don't know why, but at the time, the logic going through my head made perfect sense. I hated them as I drove home. I hated them as I went to bed. And I hated them when I woke up. It wasn't until I got to work and was among my staff and residents that I thought about it and said to myself, "Why the hell have I been thinking that all this time?" And my hatred just dissipated. But I'm still disturbed that I felt it in the first place. I don't know why it took so long, but I finally feel like I'm sick.

Ok, so I'm fairly new here but this really caught my eye. I actually just got out of a military psychiatric unit because I had some "irrational" thoughts. It's actually kind of nice to read a post like this because this shows me that I'm not alone. So if anything you just helped someone and you didnt even know it! I tend to get myself extremely attached to certain video games to distract me. I soon learned that is actually a very healthy thing in moderation. While everyones situation is different, they tend to be very similar. Believe it or not, you took the right step in knowing that you should see someone. Awareness... Thats huge! I hope you will continue to talk with someone! While I'm in a little better place than I was three weeks ago, I still have the very scary negative thoughts... And anger is a huge cause of alot of it. If I'm way off, you can just ignore this whole post.
Baby steps, it's rough... But hang in there!

[Aksannyi]

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I think all of us have been there Ketaru ... you've seen plenty on the subject from me, I'm sure.

I don't have any advice - it does pass though. The best thing I ever did was learn to recognize my triggers and avoid them. Easier said than done but with the support of a few good friends, I do all right.



Personal peeve: working with Sallie Mae ... so frustrating.

[Ketaru]

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Personal peeve: working with Sallie Mae ... so frustrating.

I'm her indentured servant. One of many.

I think all of us have been there Ketaru ... you've seen plenty on the subject from me, I'm sure.


I don't have any advice - it does pass though. The best thing I ever did was learn to recognize my triggers and avoid them. Easier said than done but with the support of a few good friends, I do all right.

While I do feel better today, I'm still intent on going through with the whole counseling idea. I always feel better sometimes. But eventually, I will become tense, paranoid, and depressive again. Like I pointed out much earlier, somebody recently even asked if I'm a high functioning autistic. I don't think I'm ill in that sense. But I do have a lot of issues I want to work out. I just don't believe I can do it by myself. I sent a friend of mine this really long confession of feelings of loneliness back in January and, reading it now, it seems just a tad melodramatic. But back then, it felt incredibly real. But he is no therapist and, friendly and good-hearted as he is for being non-judgmental about it, he is not equipped to help me through those kind of things.

The idea has been brought up at least twice in the past. The first time was with this girl in college who I frequently met up with for dinner. She was concerned because I wasn't sleeping well and she herself was receiving counseling. The second time was when this psychologist was offering free sessions, so I thought I'd give it a try. I felt better after talking to him, but he recommended I do see someone, even if it's not necessarily him because he didn't take my insurance.

I pretty much arrived at this decision because somebody shared with me what he and his wife honestly thought of me: that I'm fundamentally well-intentioned, but people are uncomfortable dealing with me because I can be needy. I impose on people as if they were close friends, even though I've known them for only maybe half a year. And I stress out over nothing and that is causing other people to feel stressed around me. None of this is anything I haven't heard from others before. I just didn't really listen all those other times.

[Aksannyi]

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Indentured servant ... lol ... such a great way of putting it.

I went to Wal-Mart tonight, I usually go much later (like after 0200), so naturally I got screwed by getting behind the person who had about seventeen forms of payment, and I wish I were joking. She had about four WIC checks (can't fault her there, they're a pain in the ass but they are so well regulated that I applaud the system), she put some stuff on her debit card, wrote a check for others, her friend paid for some stuff, and she paid the rest in cash. The cashier had asked me to put the "LANE CLOSED" sign after my stuff, so I knew she was about to go off shift and was just wanting to get through this chick and then me. I felt so bad for her.

So when I get up there, I was like, "Okay, I need to pay some of this with check, barter for some items, cash for these ..." she could tell I was joking, luckily for her, I was finished with my entire transaction in less than two minutes.

I don't know why I always forget this about going to Wal-Mart before the rest of the waking world goes to bed, but I have really got to continue to just go after midnight.

[cidbahamut]

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The new interface for Windows Server 2012 is a pile of ass.

[Jarre]

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Depression affect one in 5 people, its quite common and is also the most misunderstood health issues around.I am a moderator of a Depression forum which gives a bit of advice and a good place people can talk in a a safe environment as I to am a sufferer. The phichiatrist can offer many treatments depending on whether you can clearly share with them the real cause. If its a traumatic event there are various therapies i.e. EMDR, anxiety can be helped with CBT as well as normal counselling. If you are seriously interested in joining the forum pm me and I'll send you the link. We do have US members and one of the mods is American and so can give advice on the charities, help groups and crisis phonelines in that region.

[DakAttack]

Re: What's your pet peeve in RL?

You should be able to set an appointment with your GP for a quick evaluation, referral, and a small prescription for some immediate relief while you contact/find a more suitable professional.

[Jarre]

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Theres no such thing as imediate releif from pills. All Anti depressants take a month to set in properly, never follow the misconseption that the pills will jsut work, sometimes you have to change types because some work on others and some don't you just need to know that each thing you do is a rung up on the ladder to recovery.

[cidbahamut]

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I really wish my boss would stop buying the cheapest hardware to fulfill our needs. It inevitably ends with me spending a bunch of time fighting with a terrible interface only to discover after researching the product in question that it is absolutely terrible and unreliable for everyone else as well.

He needs to get the fuck over his aversion to spending money, man up and pay for reliable equipment, but getting that to happen is like pulling teeth.

[Taskmage]

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Theres no such thing as imediate releif from pills. All Anti depressants take a month to set in properly, never follow the misconseption that the pills will jsut work, sometimes you have to change types because some work on others and some don't you just need to know that each thing you do is a rung up on the ladder to recovery.

The first sentence isn't entirely true anymore. Ketamine has been shown to have an instant effect on depression that lasts up to 10 days. Enough to get through a critically vulnerable period and buy time to find a medication that will work in the long term.

Ketamine Relieves Depression Symptoms Within Hours