What's your pet peeve in RL?

[Taskmage]

Re: What's your pet peeve in RL?

When you're bored and nothing sounds entertaining.

When you're hungry and nothing sounds appetizing.

When you're exhausted but you can't sleep.

Probably said all this before.

[Ketaru]

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I've never fancied myself a suicidal person or anyone who would ever consider the sort. But I'm taking a lot of walks at night the last 2 weeks. I feel that the amount of walking I'm doing is good for my health. And yet I find myself fantasizing about freezing to death out in the cold. Like wondering how nice it would be if I were to just collapse right there and for it to all be over. This isn't just about my recent problems though, but some negative thoughts I've had about myself since...well...as long as I can remember. Intellectually, I know it's crap. But my gut feeling is "Why would anybody want to be with me in this world? I don't have anything good to give back to it." And I can't seem to find a way to shake that feeling.

[cidbahamut]

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But my gut feeling is "Why would anybody want to be with me in this world? I don't have anything good to give back to it." And I can't seem to find a way to shake that feeling.

I've had those sentiments before. I think it springs from the fact that we know ourselves better than others do, and we know every deep dark secret we've cultivated over the course of our lives and just how awful we can be. Those things tend to overshadow our more positive aspects when we analyze ourselves, but that doesn't necessarily mean they're more prominent or more important.

[DakAttack]

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I've never fancied myself a suicidal person or anyone who would ever consider the sort. But I'm taking a lot of walks at night the last 2 weeks. I feel that the amount of walking I'm doing is good for my health. And yet I find myself fantasizing about freezing to death out in the cold. Like wondering how nice it would be if I were to just collapse right there and for it to all be over. This isn't just about my recent problems though, but some negative thoughts I've had about myself since...well...as long as I can remember. Intellectually, I know it's crap. But my gut feeling is "Why would anybody want to be with me in this world? I don't have anything good to give back to it." And I can't seem to find a way to shake that feeling.

I feel the same way sometimes; certainly, the ex has increased the frequency of such feelings. She's a rich girl, through and through, and carries such airs of superiority, but she'll deny it and claim to have come from a middle-class family. She denies the existence any privilege and is clueless of the hardships of middle- and lower-class families. It doesn't take her long to minimalize the experiences of others. It's all very aggravating, but these are my problems.

Sometimes when I feel like I've got nothing to offer, I look at the ways I can be somebody who does have something to offer. We all have our strengths, but there's always something else we can add to the resume, like endurance or strength training or learning another language. Look at Feba, that dude's learned like three other languages, lost a lot of weight, and now considers himself a lucky man. The life we want is never as far away as it seems, but some things can't be rushed. And some people shouldn't be bothered with.

[Taskmage]

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Trite as it sounds, you have to try not to think those thoughts and focus on positive things. The more you let yourself go down those paths, the easier it gets to fall into them and the harder to get back out. I don't have any advice on how to do that. For me it took medication.

[Feba]

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well, sex helps. it's like medication you share with a friend. or a random stranger. whatever works.

barring that, watch Gurren Lagann. Or Star Trek TNG. Or pretty much anything motivational and uplifting. Find your bible, whether it be vidya, animoo, TV, buuks, or an actual fucking Bible, and commit yourself to watching it when you need that pick up.

Look at Feba, that dude's learned like three other languages, lost a lot of weight, and now considers himself a lucky man.

In west Tokyo, ryuugakusei'in'
On a girl, fallin' hard most of my days
Turned down, laughed at, rejected in Jan'
No clue what to do with my life plan
When a couple of fault lines, they were come to blows
Started making trouble in that region; Kantou
Just a few little shakes and my scholarships got scared
"You've got no option but to move back home" they declared

I asked a friend in Taiwan, "Yo, can I crash wit youz?"
And a few months later I was there, with daily booze!
If anything I could say I was a bit of a drunk
but I thought, nah, forget it, I don't give a fuck

I met my fiancée a few months later
and before long I knew that I'd have to date her
Looked at my life, things were finally good
It's a good thing I didn't stay in that shitty ass mood.




seriously, life is so fucking random; if you feel powerless, it's because of those odds. On the other hand, the odds can be influenced. It's just like an RPG, power yourself up to increase stats and get better results. And yes, there's a grind.

[Taskmage]

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Watch Angel Beats if you haven't already. That helped me shake of my malaise.

[Ketaru]

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Yeah, what you guys are all saying make sense. It helps to at least be able to tell you guys I'm having those thoughts. And I guess the worst thing is that, logically, I realize that what I'm feeling is just a product of overthinking and overanalyzing. And there are people out there far worse than me. People who probably could objectively tagged as evil. And they're the ones who will probably never feel self-doubt.

It's just especially because of recent stuff that is bringing this to light. Like I said, there is someone I really like and wish we could take the next step. But, as of now, it doesn't sound like he wants to return the sentiment. Though it sounds like he still wants to be friends. He's a good guy, one of those earnestly sweet ones. So I'm beginning to just accept that maybe I should just take it for what it is and pursuing it any more might start to make things too uncomfortable. And at least I'm someone that people would want to be friends with.

And the resident that died at our group home. Over the last week, I've had so many people coming to thank me for all the work I put in to make sure he was well taken care of in the last year of his life. The guy lived to celebrate his 80th birthday at home rather than going to live in a nursing home. So I've had a lot of people thanking me and telling me that I'm a good man. So, I've actually been asking myself for the last few days, "For God's sake, why can't I just take their word for it?" But yeah, what you guys said definitely makes a lot of sense, so it helps.

[Etra]

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well, sex helps. it's like medication you share with a friend. or a random stranger. whatever works.

I nominate myself for this position.

More seriously, everyone has some good to give back to the world. You might not see it, but others do. You gotta believe!

Okay. Maybe that wasn't very serious. When you do feel this way, though, you should try taking a nap. Your hormones will re-calibrate and you may feel better. Walks at night are nice, but so is just resting and letting your body recover from the day and stress.

[cidbahamut]

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I'm pretty sure my little sister is going to flunk out of college.

[DakAttack]

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I'm pretty sure my little sister is going to flunk out of college.

One of mine already did.

FIRST

[Truece]

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Guy didn't test his code before publishing it and then going out of the office for the long weekend. As a result, I now have more than 60,000 emails in my inbox. But I'm working from home today and the VPN connection is quite slow... I've been getting a few emails / second for the last 5 hous and Outlook still says I have ~14 hours remaining to get the rest of them.

[Aksannyi]

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I can not share details because it is an ongoing investigation, but I just learned intel about the shooting that makes me feel even sicker to my stomach than I was before. I sometimes hate having the responsibility I have at work because of all I know and how my fingers are constantly in every pot. But if it wasn't me, it was going to be somebody else. Suffice to say, ignorance is bliss - I already feel terrible about the whole thing just by proximity to it, but the more I learn about it, the worse I feel.

I do know that none of this is my fault. All of this is circumstance beyond my control. But the actions of others are what sicken me. The things I've heard from the streets. What a fucked up world we live in.

[DakAttack]

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People are fucked up, but that's nothing new. It's enough to make anybody cry if they think about it enough.

[Firewind]

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Having to get up at 5am to move sandbags because flood season is continuing into winter, in turn because our Government deciding to cut public funding to drainage and sewerage a few years back was a smart moneysaving move.