What's your pet peeve in RL?

[Yygdrasil]

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fancy

[Taskmage]

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The human brain is a marvelous device, even in its flaws and dysfunctionalities.

[cidbahamut]

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Astute observation. I think my depression is somehow seated in the left side of my brain, where the language processing is at. In parallel to this I've been reading a book that's supposed to help me learn to draw, which indicates that some part of me is in some sense hopeful, but it's not the part of me that's adept at expressing itself.

I've never had any luck with books teaching me to draw. The only times I've managed to produce good drawings is when I've spent a lot of time drawing, or at least doodling. It's the same thing I hear when I talk to artists, they always say that the key to learning to draw is to just keep drawing. Constantly.
I dunno, I always found the shading to be the fun part.

[Taskmage]

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I'll let you know whether it works out.

[Armando]

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I have some basic drawing experience so you can always come to me if you feel your proportions are out of whack or something.

[Taskmage]

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I need to get some basic skills under my belt before I start sweating the details. My drawings are hardly better than a child's.

The premise of the book is that the difficult part isn't in drawing, but in seeing the way an artist does. If I were to put it in my own words, the trick is to format visual data in your mind in a way that is intuitive to manipulate. The exercises are meant to facilitate making that perceptual shift. It may be well-dressed hokum, but it comes with a good recommendation from my high school animation teacher, so we shall see. The proof will be in the pudding or it will not.

[Yygdrasil]

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It makes perfect sense. There's a line of communication between your brain and your hands that needs to get strengthened in order for your artistic talents to flourish.

Anyone who has seen great art before can visualize it (in most of it's detail) in your head. Although you can see it in your mind, translating that to the page in front of you is a mixture of knowing the techniques required and forming that connection that allows you to re-create... or if you're going off your own inspirations... simply create what you have in your mind.

Alternatively, you can just throw buckets of pain at a canvas and call it art like more than a few morons in art's history have done... and became famous for.

It's up to you.

[Armando]

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Sounds legit.

[DakAttack]

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Maybe you just need your man cave? Claim a room in the basement, fill it with video games, a shelf of books, and a bench press. Work on yourself without the hassle of children for a few hours a day.

And, if you don't mind answering, who is this other guy and what's he doing for your wife/family?

[Yygdrasil]

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And, if you don't mind answering, who is this other guy and what's he doing for your wife/family?

Siddown, kiddo. Lemme tell you a little somethin' about the modern family dynamic.

*throws the book out the window*

Now go on... go outside and play with your friends.

[Jarre]

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This is a good suggestion. I just need to coordinate with the wife to get the car and time out of the house. How do you find volunteer work? That last time I tried looking it was like another damn job search for positions I didn't qualify for, only unpaid. Obviously soup kitchens don't advertise wherever I was looking.

It does feel like she is taking too much and not giving enough back, but to be fair, none of the times she has sought consent for something have I failed to give it.

Charity shops are always looking for people even if its a couple of hours sorting stock out for them.

[Taskmage]

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Maybe you just need your man cave? Claim a room in the basement, fill it with video games, a shelf of books, and a bench press. Work on yourself without the hassle of children for a few hours a day.

And, if you don't mind answering, who is this other guy and what's he doing for your wife/family?

That would be amazing, but we have a very small home and there literally isn't any space for me to retreat to. I've fantasized about having an "office" somewhere but someone would have to donate the space to me.

He's a long story, but suffice it to say the three of us have been together in some sense for longer than I've been married. To my kids he's like an uncle, to my wife a second husband, to me like a brother, though as you might guess the shared mate and financial disparity put some tension in the relationship, at least for me. When my family was down on its luck awhile back he shared his home with us for a couple years, and he still tries to give us financial support. We visit often and spend holidays together. He's and odd, unconventional part of the family.

[DakAttack]

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Maybe it would help to sit down with them and explain how you're feeling? Sometimes I've felt anxiety from feeling one way and trying to live my life another, specifically not loving my last girlfriend and trying to keep up an act as if I did. Sure, I had to sit down with her and let her know eventually, but it felt good to put it out there and I learned she had been losing interest as well. We came to an amiable agreement to split, but remain friends.

[Feba]

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No points for Mrs. Doubtfiraga? I wanted internet points for Mrs. Doubt Firaga


(serious note part 2: call up any charity, church, community group, hospital, ask how you can involved. Before too long someone will give you something to do. Alternatively, just notice something that nobody else is doing, and start doing it. PROTIP: When your volunteer work involves physical labor, you get to lose weight and get in better shape too)

[Taskmage]

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Mrs Doubtfiraga was good. Post is now thanked.