What's your pet peeve in RL?

[Takelli]

Re: What's your pet peeve in RL?

Yay! Taking people to court for being asshats!

Now if only being an ass hat was illegal.

And I got Strept throat... XD No wonder that stuff wasn't helping lol.

[Fliegar]

Re: What's your pet peeve in RL?

An oldish peeve that's still a peeve of mine: Not being able to get over things quickly. For example, my last relationship. I'm basically preventing myself from trying to be with anyone else because off and on, I still believe that I love my ex. FFFFUUUUUU-

[Takelli]

Re: What's your pet peeve in RL?

Go get a few drinks, and hang out with your friends. You'll forget about her in no time.

[Feba]

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don't lie to yourself.

You're never going to forget about her, and the best you can hope to do is realize that, realize she's also just a person, and go find someone else. You're never going to forget about her, but you can find someone else to put all of that love into.

[Raydeus]

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don't lie to yourself.

You're never going to forget about her, and the best you can hope to do is realize that, realize she's also just a person, and go find someone else. You're never going to forget about her, but you can find someone else to put all of that love into.

Nah. Everyone is different, and some people move on faster than others but you will forget eventually.

It's only a matter of time.

[Yygdrasil]

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The human brain's capacity to forget things never ceases to amaze me. I remember things from time to time that I havent thought about in years. It'll happen... just give it time.

[Feba]

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The human brain's capacity to forget things never ceases to amaze me. I remember things from time to time that I havent thought about in years

Then you didn't really forget about it very well, now did you.

And no, you're not going to forget her. I'm sorry, but you won't. You will learn not to care about her, you will learn life goes on, you will learn how awesome life is with or without her, but you will remember her. Maybe not everyday, but some days.

[Yygdrasil]

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I'm sorry... but no.

People... just like anything else... can be forgotten completely. To say "You'll never forget. NEVER!" is not only wrong... but in no way helpful.

One day, you'll forget... if you really want to... and the only way your memory will ever be jogged again is if someone jogs it for you.

My first girlfriend I ever had was completely lost to time for the past 8 years or so until a friend of mine said "Hey do you remember Derpina? Yeah she died. Turns out her dorm caught fire and a bunch of people died".

It took me 3 days of serious thought to come up with why her name even sounded familiar. Finally I narrowed it down and remembered that I had dated her when I was 16... for a few weeks.

Had her name not sounded familiar... or the circumstances involving her death been so tragic... I wouldn't have bothered trying to remember.

Friend: "Hey did you hear? Derpina got married"
Me: "Who?"
Friend: "Derpina... from school? Don't you remember?"
Me: "Nope... but good for her"

It happens all the time. To say that everyone has a nearly flawless memory recall is absurd.

[cidbahamut]

Re: What's your pet peeve in RL?

One day, you'll forget... if you really want to... and the only way your memory will ever be jogged again is if someone jogs it for you.

I think that's the point Feba is making. It's never gone, the memory only goes dormant but it will still be there.

[Mezlo]

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I had dated her when I was 16... for a few weeks.

Maybe this is why it was hard to remember her at first? Really? Dated for a few weeks when you were 16? I'm guessing it would also be hard for you to remember what you had for breakfast the day you met her...

Point Feba.

[Raydeus]

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I think that's the point Feba is making. It's never gone, the memory only goes dormant but it will still be there.

Yes, but her memory will be filed in the same category all those other useless memories are. If someone asks you about a mathematical formula from your school days you may remember it, but it will be inconsequential. Past lovers that you have no contact with will fade just like that even if it takes more time.

Forgetting someone really isn't about completely erasing the memories of them, but more about the feelings associated with them. And once the feelings fade in time the memories become pretty meaningless unless they were good (or traumatic) enough to be of any use later on.

[Feba]

Re: What's your pet peeve in RL?

There is a world of difference between someone you 'dated for a few weeks when you were sixteen', and someone you have loved.

[Mezlo]

Re: What's your pet peeve in RL?

There is a world of difference between someone you 'dated for a few weeks when you were sixteen', and someone you have loved.

I already covered that with my post above...

[Raydeus]

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The only difference is how long it will take you to forget about them.

When you are 18 being with someone for 6 months means you've spent almost 3% of your life with them. By the time you are 30 that only accounts for 1.6% of your life so... yeah, it stops being as significant as you grow older.



PS > And the reason why Yggy and me are saying it with such certainty is because we've been there already. XD

[Feba]

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I know Mez, but you were too soft.

Ray, frankly, with the way you talk about women, I seriously doubt you've felt much geniune love for any of them. Infatuation, interest, lust, romance, I'll grant you. But we're not debating that the memory fades and your interest becomes less significant in time; everyone agrees there, the more time between you and an event, the less you tend to think about it. That doesn't mean any of us are just going to up and forget about the people we've loved, just like we won't forget 9/11, we won't forget personal tragedies and disaster, we won't forget love. It's unreasonable to expect yourself to; or expect your partner to forget about people they've loved either. That doesn't mean you should obsess, or get lost in the past, but you will always be aware it is there.