What's your pet peeve in RL?

[Aksannyi]

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This is what you need to do then. You go in and apply with a temp agency, and they find you work. It's not a fun or meaningful job, but it's a paycheck. If you work out with the companies, some of the time they comapny will hire you on full time. This is what I did with 2 of my employees.

I second that - you really have very little to lose. Most of the temp jobs I've had have required very little skill other than typing, filing, word processing, etc. Basic office stuff. The agency I went through is Adecco and they're national, unsure if they have offices in Canada. But they're all basically the same. They'll make you take a bunch of tests, some are like really basic math, a few are attention to detail tests that ask you to match a string of numbers and/or words exactly, and you'll get some typing and MS Word tests.

Even if it ends up not being your dream job or they don't keep you on, it looks attractive that you've had some work, even if it's been temping. It can be stressful when you don't know if you're going to be hired on with the company but at least you have a paycheck coming in, which does help. At the very least, you can have some income while you look for something better, and if you're a temp who happens to find another job while working, no one will really hold it against you if you put in acceptable notice before leaving. I've worked a few temp jobs, and while I've been hired on with a few, I've also left notice and gone on to work other places.

As a temp you won't get sick time (at least not here in the US), and you won't earn vacation time. You might be more expendable so just try to pick it up quickly (really I do mostly some data entry with a lot of online database recordkeeping and credit approvals, it's not hard shit), and just make yourself valuable to them. They love me here, if it weren't for all of the corporate red tape I would have been hired like 4 months ago.

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Also Mal, if you do get a job I'll throw a forum party for you, we'll have e-pizza and a keg.

[Malacite]

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[ItazuraNhomango]

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You do realize that I was deployed to the Middle East during OIF in 2003, right? I'm really not afraid of war zones or refugee camps, and trust me, they stuck me with a whole host of needles back then, too. Most civilians haven't been inoculated from Anthrax, I would imagine.

You don't realize I'm a civilian, then.

If I have kids, and I live a war zone, I'd probably not send the kid to school--I'd drag my family into the mountain and hide. You can't teach if there's no kids to teach. And, that's the real point; if the kids aren't ready to learn--if physically or mentally absent--your influence as a teacher is minimal. (Refugee camp kid with cholera isn't going to be learning--s/he is going to be dying.)

The reality is that first year teachers often get the lousiest kids; I don't want you to get too confident before your first year experience (or too discouraged after). Just know that you can't teach them all.

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This is what you need to do then. You go in and apply with a temp agency, and they find you work. It's not a fun or meaningful job, but it's a paycheck. If you work out with the companies, some of the time they comapny will hire you on full time. This is what I did with 2 of my employees.

Lifetime 3 for 5; that is, I got three full-time positions from five temp (agency) jobs. So, yeah, it can work.

However, I also enjoyed all of my temp jobs, so YMMV.

[Aksannyi]

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You don't realize I'm a civilian, then.

If I have kids, and I live a war zone, I'd probably not send the kid to school--I'd drag my family into the mountain and hide. You can't teach if there's no kids to teach. And, that's the real point; if the kids aren't ready to learn--if physically or mentally absent--your influence as a teacher is minimal. (Refugee camp kid with cholera isn't going to be learning--s/he is going to be dying.)

The reality is that first year teachers often get the lousiest kids; I don't want you to get too confident before your first year experience (or too discouraged after). Just know that you can't teach them all.

Ahh, gotcha. I know most of this. I'm far from an idealist, I just don't have qualms about moving elsewhere to teach if life happens to uproot me and/or my boyfriend. Perhaps by saying "anywhere on the planet" I was exaggerating, but my intent was to say that if I happen to need/want to move from Florida in the future, I can take that profession with me.

[cidbahamut]

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Girl who broke my heart won't even speak to me face to face about it.

It's weird though. Either I've gone completely and totally numb or I've just let go and acclimated to the free fall.

10 years of emotional invest, I ought to be feeling something right now. Oh well, maybe it's for the best. Time to cut her out of my life for a year. It's not like she's willing to talk to me right now anyway.

[DakAttack]

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There are a million and one stages before you can consider her cut out of your life.

[cidbahamut]

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Just for a year. It's going to happen naturally anyway. She lives out in the middle of bumfuck Midwest USA and I live right outside DC. She's going to stop talking to me because she wants to put a whole bunch of space between us after this whole ordeal. That's fine I suppose, it's normal. But it's going to end up with me taking cues from her on when it's ok to start talking to her again so...Yeah. Probably means I won't be hearing from her again until I call her next February for her birthday like I always do. It's probably for the best as I don't think I'll be able to properly move on if there's the opportunity to constantly interact with her. I just wish she'd given me some fucking answers because I'm still confused as hell about what happened. One week she's offering a birthday make out session, the next she's declaring that she will never be romantically involved with me. I really wish I'd at least gotten to make out with her one last time. She was heavenly.

I know I'm going to end up spending the rest of my natural born life trying to recreate what I found in her and it's going to be the pits.

[Malacite]

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^ that's disturbingly similar with what happened to me, and she was like my BFF since we were 8 & 7. Just 3 days before my birthday (after agreeing to let me take her out to dinner to celebrate - I'm a diehard romantic like that. Doing nice stuff for her always made me feel good too ) was like her personality just did a complete 180 without any prior warning or discussion. And *just* to me. She acted totally normal to everyone else but it was like I'd done some horrible thing that was never made clear to me and it was really emotionally scarring. One day my best friend since childhood and the only girl I've ever really loved more than anything tells me she feels the same and eventually wants to get hitched. Then the next day it's "Don't talk to me. We're still friends, just don't talk to me." and then eventually just not wanting anything more to do with me at all.


fucking women...

[Mezlo]

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Hang in their pal. The next one that comes along will be even better.

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^ to both of you two.

[cidbahamut]

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I don't believe that. I already had a next one come along in college and she wasn't nearly as good as this one.

And yeah, it's very upsetting when they won't even tell you what happened to prompt their decision. It's like...fuck, I'd like to know what just happened so I could maybe learn from this traumatic experience? No? Ok, fine then.

I'm not holding out much hope for a next one wandering along. I don't go out looking for love, so I don't expect to find it again in this decade, or at all really. Maybe lightning will strike twice, but it gets less and less likely as I get older.

[Aksannyi]

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I feel like since I'm the female voice on this forum I should try to explain that kind of behavior but I really don't get it. :/ Sucks to both of you.

Cutting someone out completely can be done. When all the shit went down back in 2011 I had him stop over and bring some of my stuff (some of it is still at his place though), we talked for awhile about what happened (basically for those who don't remember, he was seeing me and someone else at the same time and I found out from a mutual friend, story is longer than that but if you really want to find out look back in April 2011 because I don't really care to go into it) and when he left I told him I didn't wish for him to contact me again. I deleted him from my Facebook and my phone so I wouldn't be tempted to call him or even drunk text him. It's been nearly three years now, and I have not heard a word from him, nor has he heard a word from me. He is basically dead to me.

I sometimes wonder how he's doing and I miss the friendship we once had, but I am not willing to put myself through what will inevitably follow if we were to see each other again, and although I have healed emotionally from the split, I do not think I can ever stomach seeing him with another woman. I didn't think I would ever heal, three years ago, and I'm sure many of you remember the depression I damn near didn't recover from. Well I felt like I could never care about another human after that, but I was wrong. And I'm a lot better off, a lot stronger, and a fucking hell of a lot happier.

So long story short, hugs to all of you guys, I you, and I have been where you are and it does eventually end.

[DakAttack]

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If somebody drops you like a Comcast connection, they either decided they don't like you or found somebody else.

[Caspian]

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Basically, exactly what Dak said. Something has changed and it's easier for them to not have to rethink it than to try and pretend things are okay and continue talking. I've been on both sides of it (though less with the cutting someone out when I make the decision, I think I'm the one person that really does try and keep the friendship, particularly if we see each other on a routine basis) and it's never fun.
At least in Cid's case, I imagine the long distance played a large role in it. From personal experience: long distance does not work. It's too damned difficult unless you're willing to make arrangements to see each other every weekend and Skype 3 to 4 nights during the week. To quote Ted Moseby: "Long distance is a lie high school kids tell each other before going to college to get laid."
And, really, Mezlo is probably very right. You won't think there could be any girl better, but there is. She'll be as into you as you are into her and shit will just work.

Cid: you don't have to be looking for it to happen. Trust me.

Best of luck to both of you, though. I know it sucks, it will get better.

[cidbahamut]

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Cid: you don't have to be looking for it to happen. Trust me.

That's how it's worked out so far. Only happened twice though. The odds don't seem to be very good.

[Feba]

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Peeve:

"Thanks!"
"Don't mention it."
"You're such a helpful and trustworthy friend!"
"You can stop reminding me"