What's your pet peeve in RL?

[djose]

Re: What's your pet peeve in RL?

Net has been down all day now it's too late to play anything

[geogolem]

Re: What's your pet peeve in RL?

Phew, I guess I won't be that far behind you. I spent the past couple days since I last played with you cleaning up my household's computers. Reinstalling Mac/Windows and everything!

What level has your guy got to, and what else have you been up to?

[Takelli]

Re: What's your pet peeve in RL?

The right pill can work miracles, but the wrong one can make things worse, and it can take months and months of trial and error before you find a drug or combinations of drugs at just the right doses that work for you. By the same token, the right psychologist can make a huge difference, and just because one or two haven't worked for you doesn't mean you should write them off as a profession. As widespread as depression diagnosis is these days, every case is unique and odds are you're going to find a lot of therapies that don't help you before you find one that does. The point is, explore as many options as you can and don't give up trying. It'd be discouraging for a normal-minded person to deal with and being depressed makes it harder, but persistence is the only thing for it.

If you think a forum-based support group would be a good thing for you, you might as Jarre for a link to the site he's involved in.

Thank you both.

As for. I have an issue with sharing anything. I always help others. And find that helps, till my.emotions over flow.

And wow... I stop for Ine day, and there is goat porn. XD. I guess beasteality is alive here Lmao.

[Omgwtfbbqkitten]

Re: What's your pet peeve in RL?

The right pill can work miracles, but the wrong one can make things worse, and it can take months and months of trial and error before you find a drug or combinations of drugs at just the right doses that work for you. By the same token, the right psychologist can make a huge difference, and just because one or two haven't worked for you doesn't mean you should write them off as a profession. As widespread as depression diagnosis is these days, every case is unique and odds are you're going to find a lot of therapies that don't help you before you find one that does. The point is, explore as many options as you can and don't give up trying. It'd be discouraging for a normal-minded person to deal with and being depressed makes it harder, but persistence is the only thing for it.

If you think a forum-based support group would be a good thing for you, you might as Jarre for a link to the site he's involved in.

I just want to add that finding the right treatment, the right doctor, the right psychologist and such can be like finding the right car mechanic. Sometimes a case can fall out of their expertise and they won't want to admit that so they'll just throw the book at you. You can spend months and hundreds or thousands of dollars on finding the right people to get you the right treatment, but the most troublesome thing you can do is pre-diagnose yourself or have your family coming in doing it for you.

I've come to believe people can't really know reasons for the extent of the problems they have without some serious introspection, but I think its possible to pinpoint a cause. Only you can know what affects you, what you react to and how you react to it. When I had my issues a few years back, I kept going back to this inability to sleep properly and no one seemed to care. My family put too much trust in the doctors, as did I, and we kept trying their treatments. Not once did it occur to anyone that I just might have a sleep disorder. Treatments only kind of helped it, but it didn't fully help it and some of the treatments were actually disruptive.

Eventually I just sorted it out on my own, forced myself to change aspects of my lifestyle - including quitting FFXI - to get back where I needed to be. I wouldn't say it was so much an addiction as a senseless sense of obligation to keep playing. I had no interest in endgame, i was vocal against it, but attached to other things all the same. It was still unhealthy and had also become a source of stress rather than an escape from it. I had plenty of other reasons to give it up. I had an absence of sleep because I kept playing and a lack of sleep has this way of simulating other problems - like, for example, agoraphobia. That's actually a common symptom. Memory loss and panic attacks, too. I experienced them all.

Your mind needs sleep to sort things out. Sleep for the brain is kind of like crying when you're upset, denying yourself sleep is like just bottling up all that emotion. Some jobs and activities make proper sleep patterns difficult, we have a culture that tells men to just "man up" rather than relieve stress. So yeah, people can get fucked up by not giving into some physical and emotional needs.

I've sort of arrived at a conclusion as to what led me to those problems and its another problem locked deep down thanks to our awesome cultural values of telling boys and men to just stow it. I'd discuss it further, but given how understanding people here were not the last time around, I'll keep it to my family, other forums and the doctors I'll see as its no one else's business.

[Taskmage]

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Sleep disorders are an good point to bring up. Even if your sleep habits and schedule are reasonably healthy, you might have a condition like sleep apnea or restless leg syndrome that interrupts your sleep cycle and prevents your brain from getting to the deeper stages of sleep that restore your mental faculties. It's not uncommon for one of these problems to precipitate a case of anxiety or depression. It might be worth doing some research and, if you live with someone, asking them to observe your sleep to see if you exhibit symptoms in lieu of a professional study.

Even if sleep isn't the cause of your problems, if you know sleeping properly is a problem for you, you might ask your doctor for something like Ambien. It's relatively inexpensive, and a truly restful night can make a world of difference in getting you to a mental state where you can cope with your problems.

[Takelli]

Re: What's your pet peeve in RL?

Sleep disorders are an good point to bring up. Even if your sleep habits and schedule are reasonably healthy, you might have a condition like sleep apnea or restless leg syndrome that interrupts your sleep cycle and prevents your brain from getting to the deeper stages of sleep that restore your mental faculties. It's not uncommon for one of these problems to precipitate a case of anxiety or depression. It might be worth doing some research and, if you live with someone, asking them to observe your sleep to see if you exhibit symptoms in lieu of a professional study.

Even if sleep isn't the cause of your problems, if you know sleeping properly is a problem for you, you might ask your doctor for something like Ambien. It's relatively inexpensive, and a truly restful night can make a world of difference in getting you to a mental state where you can cope with your problems.

I do have sleep Apnea, and thats taken care of with the C-Pap that I am using.

But even with that I am still ugh.

[Satori]

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sleep habits are a pain for me. The times I have to work + morning routine + travel mess me up too.

Early shift. 5am wake up, wash & get ready. 6am catch 2 busses. 7am shift begins. 3pm home.

Late 12midday catch busses, 1pm shift begins, 9:30pm shift ends.

Long day ^^ those two combined.

Night shift 6pm busses, 7pm shift starts. 7:30am shift ends.

Being a senior nurse I#m always staying over because of staff problems and my shifts are always a combo of those shifts including one week of nights.

early & lates. 5 shifts = 1 week.
Long day. 3.5 = 1 week
Nights, 4 = 1 week.

my body gets messed up easy and I work for the bank agency to do overtime and work in my own time as a drag queen in bars and doing Hen parties and compare work.
It amazes me how I have tome to sleep or play and somewhere in there I have to try and have a life that includes family friends and a relationship.
I swear I'll be bald by 30, But I already have a supply of wigs.

[Truece]

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You lead an interesting life.

[Raydeus]

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You lead in interesting life.

Satori, this is a polite way of saying you are freaking crazy and that he would've died already living like that (as would I.) <_<;

[Jarre]

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The thing about depression is some people beleive that seeing a counsellor or phycologist is a total fix. it isn't. You have to work at it, you have to learn what triggers these episodes and try and avoid them, easier said than done beleive me. The first step is admitting you suffer from it, so many people refuse to admit it that they never get themselves any help and wonder why they get worse and worse. 2ndl;y if your Dr proscribes AD's (I'm on citalapram) they all effect people in different ways. and theres so many of them and its not instant, they can take up to 6 weeks before you notice any real effect and even then their not a cure all they do is make it a little bit easier, but even so you will still have good days and a few bad days. with depression you take each day as it comes, celebrate acheivements and progress and just take on board problems and down days and learn from them. Their are so many treatments form counselling to CBT, EMDR therapy for trauma etc. etc. the later is what I am currently under a 10 week course of and its not easy. Depression is a hidden illness that others can't really see or tend to want to beleive. If you want help you need to tell the therapist what you want them to do i.e. help improve self confidence, help come to terms with an "incident" in life etc and they will be able to work out the best treatment from that.

@Satori, sounds like your living life to the fullest and good on you. My friend is the female version of a drag queen (not sure what its definition is) as she dresses up in mens clothes and talks about her false dick, tells jokes and talks about who she wants to fuck in a comedy / song act.

[Raydeus]

Re: What's your pet peeve in RL?

Sort of a related peeve : I need at least 26 hour days.


That's it, I'm moving to Bajor.

[Jarre]

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You'll need one of these

[cidbahamut]

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I dunno. I found a steady stream of anti-depressants for many years followed by slowly forgetting to take them daily until I finally dropped that prescription worked out well for me. I think it's just different for everyone, both in root cause and the best approach to deal with it.

[Ufgt]

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Damn, the lot of you all have psychological... things.

[djose]

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Lol it's prolly what makes them all close

Anyways my Peeve, trying to finish installing WoW and FFXI on my spare laptop, and it's taking such a long time

I need it to hurry as I only have 1 charger atm, the one for my actual gaming laptop broke a very long time ago.