Official bored at work / just shooting the shit / no rails to derail thread

[TheGrandMom]

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Forcing people to volunteer is just asking to have a bunch of people pissed off and making lives miserable for all concerned, though. I'd rather have willing people do a job, even if they're harder to find, than a bunch of people coerced into it by laws or threat of having to pay in yet more money, especially in our current economic climate.

Actually thats not true. We often get "offenders" that are forced to work community service and most of them are actually really happy after they've been there for a bit. A lot of then continue to volunteer after their sentence is up too. Community service isn't like work at all. We have a lot of fun joking around, go out to dinner together occasionally, and its a family atmosphere almost.....sorta like being in a good ls.

[Feba]

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and Telera, don't forget that plenty of countries have compulsory military service. Not just the draft, but actually requiring people of a certain age (or at least males) to put in some kind of duty. If a country can make people join their armed forces without major issues, you can bet people being forced into community projects wouldn't have those sorts of horrible problems.

[Telera]

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I didn't say it'd have horrible problems, just that most people probably aren't going to be really happy having to take yet more time out of their already scanty days off to go piss about because some law says so. Many people, especially moms, have a billion better things to be doing. And me? I hate my job, and while I'm a convincing actress and do well on my secret-shop reports, I'm sure others can tell I really don't give a flying fuck about them. I wouldn't want someone of my mindset helping the elderly against their will.

Volunteer work should be done by those who truly wish to aid others, not just because someone's got a law and a fine pointed at your head. I have better damn things to do with my two days off than spend one of them doing some silly compulsory bullshit.

When I feel like helping, I will. And dealing with people is work for me. I don't care what the atmosphere is. My coworkers are all lovely and I'm friends with each of them. We cut up and all that jolly good nonsense. Still hate my job and the customers though. Atmosphere doesn't guarantee happiness for me. The less people around me, the better. There's too much electromagnetic energy or something, they all give off, puts me on edge. Seriously. I've been extremely sensitive to changes in the EMF around me for as long as I can recall. Too many people, even if I can't see them around me makes me anxious and uneasy.

This is why I like my days off and don't want them fucked with. I try to keep away from places with lots of people in them so I can kind of re-focus.

[TheGrandMom]

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I'm not being an ass. Did you ever take any medication for this? I can't cross a line here and I'm NOT trying to diagnose but there are psychological disorders that can create some of the feelings you have. Have you ever been evaluated? AvPD is a very common disorder and there are varying degrees. It seems that you have a very strong dislike for social behavior, something that might be helped with therapy and medication.

[Telera]

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I know, TGM. And I thank you for your concern. Srsly. No, I haven't. And I've thought perhaps I need it. I've also had people try to tell me it might be something more related to ESP, but since most of the world thinks that's bogus, I don't think it'd do me any good to explain some of the weird ass things that have happened to me. Stuff I've tried my damnedest to rationalize. In its most benign forms, the odd things I've experienced have come down to straight up precognition. Wholesale images of things before they happen. Other things have been a bit more frightening. I'm not going into the spiel here because I've long since grown wary of talking about it. You can PM me if you want.

It's just hard to describe. It isn't a physical noise I hear, but at the same time it feels like one, a static interference. Like this hum. It's not there as badly when there's less people, but even one, and I can feel it. Pressure like. I feel odd when storms approach, the shift in the atmosphere, the increase in ions messes with me. I've always had a knack for storms in that regard, and thought even if I'm fucked up, it'd give me an edge in tornado chasing research. :p

But yeah. It isn't that I so much don't like people, I like them if you give me a very small group. But some people are 'louder' than others, in their hum, and others are rather quiet, so even that isn't a given. I've had 10 people in my tiny store at once, all of whom were 'quiet' and I was fine. But two 'loud' types will drive me out of my mind and fray my patience quickly. My dad is very 'loud', and he's always been unable to wear a watch, it speeds up, then dies. Poor guy. I think that was the first time I drew the lines to maybe it's something in the faint electricity/etc that people emit that I'm picking up on.

I just get very uneasy at the prospect of being forced into crowds and situations more often than I have to be. I don't function well without sufficient quiet time to myself. The last time I worked in a very busy store, I stopped having periods the entire time I was there. One boss was a bitch, but it was more the constant flux of people that was driving me nuts. My job itself wasn't that stressful. I don't like even shopping in crowded places (even though I love shopping, just on quiet days), and last Christmas, when I went with my brother and his g/f, I spent a great deal of time just waiting outside in a quiet spot because there was just too much of that what-the-hell-ever that noise-but-not-noise is. That mall was packed.

But if it's just EMF I'm sensitive to, maybe they can just stick a magnet on my head and call it a day. :D Might suck all the iron out of my blood, though.

Quick perusal of AvPD: I don't really have low self esteem or fear people won't like me. I am very self-critical, but only in my writing, or other artsy endeavors I take on. In fact, I really don't care if people do or don't like me. I avoided most of the HS drama that way. I didn't care how people thought of me because of the way I looked, dressed, performed, etc. I think the reality is that most people really don't think about others that terribly often. I think there's even a famous quote along those lines. And I'm pretty good at making acquaintances. I'm still in touch with a large chunk of my HS buddies, actually.

[Vyuru]

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Well, if that's the case then you don't want to be around me. I am one of the "loud" ones you mention.

Which frankly sucks when as a kid, someone tells you that they can't stand being around you because of all the energy or whatever you want to call it that you are giving off because of course they don't tell you that initially, they just say that they can't stand being around you.

I'm sure there are meds you could probably take for it, I would recommend against it. Who knows what else they're doing to you? Then I'm sure there is the junkie factor, for lack of a better word. Let's take Excedrin as an example. If you take it for every ache and pain then you get so used to it that even little minor things feel worse and more pronounced, and so you wind up needing more of it. Yeah, it helps with the pain, but also makes your more, I dunno, susceptible or aware of the pain than before. I'm sure that this would be the case with whatever meds you'd take for what you're talking about.

There are some mental things you could do to squash it, but take it from me that that is not something that you want to do. It's weird, I can't really explain it, but if you do that, or at least when I did that, there was a funky disconnected/hollow feeling on the inside that was worse than dealing with it had ever been.

IMO it's better to accept it and do your best to deal with it. It's not always easy, but you can do it. It's all in your head, heart, and soul.

[TheGrandMom]

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Well if you don't need that iron, throw it my way please! LOL I'm severely anemic and pay them $12,000 every 6 months to pump it into me!

I also suffer from the same affliction that your father does. I just can't wear watches! They die and are unable to be fixed. That was until my husband found this new eco watch that is charged by sunlight. That I can wear but not for long periods of time. I can wear that when I go out for the evening but then it has to come off because the charge will be nearly gone. It's supposed to last days but 4-5 hours on my wrist and its done for. LOL So I fear I'm one of those "loud" people!

But it might be a good thing to check with your doctor about. If it gave you any degree of relief it would certainly be worth it.

[Telera]

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I r anemic. I needz mah ironz. x_x

Well, as Vyuru says, to me, it's another sense. I think if I tried to cut it out, I would feel a bit more adrift and isolated. It makes it difficult to get on in crowds and all, but it's also good in ways. I can get a feel from it if someone is feeling well or not. People who are ill tend to be louder or quieter than normal. Depends on the person. So it makes me a bit more empathetic in that respect, I guess, because I can feel it even if they're fairly adept at hiding it, that something out of the norm is up.

And like I said, if I became a tornado chaser, it'd give me the one-up. :D But I insist on having a crazy, fat MTV rocker guy like on Twister in my crew.

[TheGrandMom]

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Did you ever watch Storm Chasers?? I absolutely love that show! Crazy people but very cool. Whenever we have alerts here (usually in the spring which is coming up YAY!) I sit in my sunroom and watch the storms. Now I take my grandsons out there to watch too because my daughter is turning them into a couple of pu****s! They are afraid of GRASS for petes sake!

[Telera]

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I don't get to watch television much, but I catch it if it's on when I do.

But yeah, storms. Mom is not scared of them. She'll stand there and watch them come in, and you can't get her in a basement unless a twister dropped on her head. I'm about the same way, I'll watch until it becomes rather clear that it's gotten too dangerous. Dad, on the other hand, is petrified of storms. If the wind even blows hard, he swears a tornado is coming to kill us all. So much for the protector of the family... he'll be the first one in a hole. He's so afraid of death. *eyeroll* I've never feared death, just the method by which I get there. I don't want to waste away, so long as it's quick, or in my sleep, (and non-violent) I don't give a damn.

[TheGrandMom]

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I used to be deathly afraid of storms. I remember as a kid seeing funnel clouds whirling over our house and my mother blissfully sitting at her kitchen table sucking down beers. I'd be in the basement yelling up the stairs begging her to come down. She's still the same way today except now I'll sit at the table with her. LOL But I'll pass on the beer.

[Mezlo]

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/em picks some flowers and hands them to Telera to cheer her/him up

(maybe that will end the talk of death)
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/em cracks a beer and passes one to TGM

[Feba]

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I didn't say it'd have horrible problems, just that most people probably aren't going to be really happy having to take yet more time out of...

yes, but the same applies to taxes. Doesn't mean they're a bad idea.


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[Akashimo]

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Urge to kill: Rising.

[Feba]

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eh?