Official bored at work / just shooting the shit / no rails to derail thread

[Aksannyi]

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You can't go to school and play MMOs at the same time. Your performance in one of the two will suffer.

I know right? I sit in class worrying about whether or not we're gonna claim Ixion.

School bores me to tears, but I'm stuck here. I have nowhere else to live if I don't stay in student housing, and I certainly don't have the money to live on my own. I put up with the minimum to get by and stay another quarter (seriously) and I just really don't care about it at all. I should, but I don't. It might matter more if my kids were with me, but with them being so far away I don't really care about anything but video games, and sometimes CK. (lol ok j/k about that last part. I don't care about him ever.)

[DakAttack]

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You're stuck in school when there's a lot of people out there who can't even get in. I don't see how considering life with and without an education wouldn't motivate you to do better.

[Aksannyi]

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Yeah, I have this thing, it's called depression. You don't know. There is a sense of hopelessness in knowing my kids are so far away from where I am, I can't get a job now nor will I be able to in the near future, and therefore I won't be able to have them be where I am since the school will not sponsor single mother housing and/or childcare, neither of which I can afford on my own. Going to school is just something I do for now, but with the economy as it is right now, and the possibility for it to get worse before it gets better, school feels pretty pointless when people with years of experience can't even get work, let alone someone at entry level. So yeah, I go just to put up with it and to have a place to live for the time being, because really it's a better alternative than my truck.

It definitely does feel pointless and useless at the moment, and I do realize I've got some issues to work out and I have been at least attempting to do so, but it's not exactly as simple as you've put it.

[Murphie]

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Actually if anything school is the best place for you to be right now, because as you know, getting a job is really tough right now (and I know this as well). But the economy will recover, and having an education under your belt will help you to secure job when that time comes.

It's really disheartening to see people taking their college education for granted when mine is on hold right now for financial reasons and I'd do anything to get back in.

[Durahansolo]

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but with the economy as it is right now, and the possibility for it to get worse before it gets better, school feels pretty pointless when people with years of experience can't even get work, let alone someone at entry level.

That is something I had to explain to my brother and my cousins who are all older than i am. Sure I have a degree in Website Design and know a bit about computers, but they all three tried to explain to me that Flint, MI (Where I live) has no jobs and for me to go somewhere else that has them...No need in me leaving my Data Entry job to go somewhere because there is nowhere to go to. So me quitting my job and moving would land me with the other millions of unemployed people that are around right now. Like I told my brother "And then I'll be living off of one of you three knuckleheads with no job and nowhere to go." so basically the only difference would be that I was living with a family member other than my parents.

Even if I do get a job, I can end up a victim of "Last hired, first fired."

[DakAttack]

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Yeah, I have this thing, it's called depression.

Does it put food in your kids' mouths? I don't mean to be cruel, but they must be the biggest source of motivation for you and you're in a prime position to become somebody. You want to be ready for when the job market stops circling the drain.

It's tough all over, but tough times don't last. Tough people do.

[TheGrandMom]

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Well one thing I can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt is, an Associates degree doesn't mean shit anymore. If thats what anyone is aiming for, you better start aiming higher. A Bachelor's degree is what people should aim for even in the tech industry. Yes there is the occasional lucky person nowadays that knew a person that knew a person but for the most part having a Bachelor's shows that you have the gumption to finish what you started. An Associate's just shows them that you didn't want to put too much effort into it and thats how they perceive you'll do the job they are offering. Also, once you get your foot in the door, they might want to send you for more schooling. Ya that sucks in a way but take advantage of it. They pay and you get a free education that could land you an even better paying job. The road to success isn't paved with sitting at home playing video games....its paved with lots of commitment and hard work that pays off in the end.

It's tough all over, but tough times don't last. Tough people do.

Totally agree. If you want something in life, you have to fight for it. If you don't have the energy to do it then be happy with what you have.

[Andromache]

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Well one thing I can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt is, an Associates degree doesn't mean shit anymore. If thats what anyone is aiming for, you better start aiming higher. A Bachelor's degree is what people should aim for

I have a Bachelor's Degree, and I'm still Temping.... ><

Don't go into school to be a teacher, whatever you do, and if you do go that road, (in Canada at least) DON'T Go into Drama.... there are no drama teaching jobs anymore....

Soooooooooo tired of not teaching anymore

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I am since the school will not sponsor single mother housing and/or childcare, neither of which I can afford on my own.

Does your school not have a family housing? University of Alberta (Sorry, am Canadian and don't know about U.S. schools) had a family housing area for students who were on loans and needed housing, and student loans covered most everything, from childcare and what not. They had affordable child care at the school that was covered by subsidy and student loans and grants.

[Aksannyi]

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Does your school not have a family housing?

It does not. That would be awesome, really, but I've talked to them about it, and it's not happening. So right now, my kids continue to live with my ex husband until I can get a place.

Also, you can all blame my mother for my predicament, she was so angry with me for letting my ex have the kids (for his turn, jesus ... it's called joint custody bitch) that she removed me from her house and I've been struggling to find a place for myself since. Hence the reason for the school housing shit, and nowhere to go otherwise. She's still pissed at me for letting him have the kids - which I still fully believe to be RIGHT and FAIR to him, as much as I think he's a douche he still has a right to see his kids - and refuses to even speak to me. So basically, if I want to have my kids back with me, I have to have a steady job that I'm in little danger of losing that actually pays well enough for me to work part-time AND go to school and pay for housing. And roommates are out of the question, I refuse to put my kids through that hassle, possibly living with someone who would not be very good with them, and there is no one down here I really know well and trust (other than CK, but that's another story entirely) enough that I'd feel comfortable with them living in the same house as my kids.

So yeah, this is where I'm literally stuck. And honestly I don't even try finding a job anymore, you can only hear so many, "You've not worked in four years, we can't possibly hire you," WHEN I was fucking busy raising my kids and being a housemother during that time period, which is FAR more important than some data entry or telemarketing job I could have gotten - and a hell of a lot harder, to boot - but still raising kids doesn't count as working and thus, people tell me I'm "unhireable." As though I was supposed to just give birth at my desk at some crappy company and continue on working while nursing and trying to take care of a toddler at the same time, honestly people have no real priorities in life, I chose was was best for me and my children and not a single fucking employer can look at that and tell me I did the right thing, it's retarded.

I hate this country sometimes. And I hate my mother. I blame her for a lot of my problems because quite frankly a lot of them wouldn't exist if she would just realize that the kids are, first of all, WELL TAKEN CARE OF, and second of all, not hers. Thus, she has no real say in what happens to them and I did what was best for them.

I really needed that rant. I'm in therapy but it doesn't always help you know? Gotta vent.

[Jarre]

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Vent away Aksannyi hun, I'm sorry your in this position but the fact you have thought about your kids and wont put them into a situation you would not be happy with, shows how great a mother you are to them.

I don't know much about the US system, but here in the Uk you would have been given benefits to help and a council house (assuming one was availiable) to assist you as in our country we do tend to look after those in need (even though i know of too many who abuse the system)

You actively trying to get yourself an education and get a decent job to provide for your kids, if they are saying you have no experience then you need to start looking at doing some work, no matter how dull and mundane it is just to show you have some experience. I did this and accepted a very low wage just so i could get the experience and now although pay here in lincolnshire is not great, I am sorting myself out.

keep plodding on and aim forward and grit your teeth through the downers, as I beleive you will make something of yourself for your kids to be proud of.

*huggs* Jarre

[Murphie]

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You actively trying to get yourself an education and get a decent job to provide for your kids, if they are saying you have no experience then you need to start looking at doing some work, no matter how dull and mundane it is just to show you have some experience. I did this and accepted a very low wage just so i could get the experience and now although pay here in lincolnshire is not great, I am sorting myself out.

keep plodding on and aim forward and grit your teeth through the downers, as I beleive you will make something of yourself for your kids to be proud of.

*huggs* Jarre

I'm not trying to pile on Aksannyi and I really do emphasize with her personal situation right now, but I think the word you're looking for in her case is passively. School seems to be a means to an end for her right now, and that end is not a brighter future. It's a roof over her head.

I hope you can find a way to figure things out so that you can have your kids again and still continue your education, Aks. I've seen how important they are to you here on the forums, and know you can't be in a good place not having them around every day.

[Taskmage]

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So yeah, this is where I'm literally stuck. And honestly I don't even try finding a job anymore, you can only hear so many, "You've not worked in four years, we can't possibly hire you," WHEN I was fucking busy raising my kids and being a housemother during that time period, which is FAR more important than some data entry or telemarketing job I could have gotten - and a hell of a lot harder, to boot - but still raising kids doesn't count as working and thus, people tell me I'm "unhireable."

I was in the same situation for a long time. "Gee, it seems like you haven't worked in a long time. We're just gonna go ahead and not hire you so the next interviewer can comment on how you haven't worked in even longer." And this was for BS retail jobs.

Right now I'm at a position in life where it's taking everything I have just to maintain my present and I can't manage to move toward a future. There's no way for example I could afford the time or money to go back to school. It's quite depressing. Not falling behind is good but not getting ahead is not.

[Feba]

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Aksannyi, have you tried looking around at local charities? It might seem demeaning, but there may be charitable groups (or even government funds) that would help single mothers get the money they need to get a place and supplies to take care of their kids.

[Jarre]

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Don't you get support from your governemnet, i.e. job seekers scheme where they help you gt into education or give you special courses (we have learn direct) in things like numeracy, english, IT etc. to help you with basic skills for jobs. I know its not a great job to wait tables or work in a supermarket but we all have to do something to get some cashflow. I worked in a sueprmarket for 4 years to save up for university. I am appalled if its the casr that the US (land of the free and supposed to be a rich country) doesn't have systems like this to help their citizens.

Do you get a small allowance to assist? we get Job seekers allowance or "The dole" as its nicknamed, its not much but helps keep you living at a reasonable level to keep a roof over your head and food in your mouth.

[Murphie]

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I was in the same situation for a long time. "Gee, it seems like you haven't worked in a long time. We're just gonna go ahead and not hire you so the next interviewer can comment on how you haven't worked in even longer." And this was for BS retail jobs.

Right now I'm at a position in life where it's taking everything I have just to maintain my present and I can't manage to move toward a future. There's no way for example I could afford the time or money to go back to school. It's quite depressing. Not falling behind is good but not getting ahead is not.

I'm in a similar situation as well. I was in school, doing fine, and then I relocated to an area where the recession has hit hardcore. I look for work every single day, and though I've had a few interviews, there are just so many applicants that I haven't gotten in.

Frustratingly, I have the time, but just not the funds in order to keep going with school. This break was intended to last a semester, but now it's inching up on a year. So frustrating.