im all alone ; ;

[Murphie]

Re: im all alone ; ;

Hmm...
Is there a way to filter a specific user's posts? (blist like)

Yes. If you view that person's profile, you'll see an option to add that person to your buddy list (who doesn't like buddies?) and an option to add them to your ignore list.

[Hamlet]

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Emo threads ftw

If it wasn't for emo threads, where would I post all my Morrisey/Smiths lyrics?

btw, here's a conversion of that song:

I was happy in the haze of a Valkrum sunset
But heaven knows I'm miserable now

I was looking for a job, and then I found a job
And I have to level my subjob now


In this game
Why do I give valuable time
To players who don't care if I live or die ?


Two naked mithras pass me by
And heaven knows I'm miserable now


I was looking for a job, and then I found a job
And I have to level my subjob now


In this game
Oh, why do I give valuable time
To players who don't care if I live or die ?


What she asked of me at the end of the party
Maat himself would have blushed


"You've got a link, an antican" she said
And I (naturally) fled


In my life
Why do I smile emote
At players who I'd much rather kick in the eye ?


I was happy in the haze of a Valkrum sunset
But heaven knows I'm miserable now


"You've got a link, now two anticans" she said
And I (naturally) fled


In this game
Why do I give valuable time
To players who don't care if I live or die ?

It's strange how easily convertable all Smiths/Morrisey songs are to ffxi.

[Kirsteena]

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I find it hard. For a long time, the majority of my friends were in the US, making it hard for me, being British, to do anything with them. I tried joining the HNMLS they were all in, but going to bed at 4am sucks. I am still good friends with them, but it is hard to do anything (though we still do missions together).

I love my current ls to bits, but the closeness - I miss that. The friend I was closest to is on an extended break, and I miss him. Ah well.

[Raydeus]

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Yes. If you view that person's profile, you'll see an option to add that person to your buddy list (who doesn't like buddies?) and an option to add them to your ignore list.

Thank you.

[Herrisa]

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This so reminds me of when the subject of marriage (in-game) comes up in the LS. Strangely enough, it's the guys saying they want to get married. We gals, being the sympathic type, just point and laugh.

[Tsikuro]

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Yeah, seriously. If you're that desperate, try one of those online dating services or something, but the best way to do it is find a girlfriend (that like videogames, I guess) irl and then get her into the game...

[Murphie]

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Video game playing is pretty low on my list of prerequisites for a mate. As long as they tolerate my video game playing, we're good. And I have that, so it's coo.

[Amiraphe]

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OP-Maybe you need to find a friendly LS, a family/community kind.

I got very lucky with my group and we developed such close friendships even though we're living very seperate lives many miles apart. I look forward to seeing them every day. Besides quests, parties and whatnot...They are the main reason I log on.

If you feel this lonely for friendship, take off your current pearl before you party. See if someone gives you a pearl. Check it out.

[Raydeus]

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It's strange how easily convertable all Smiths/Morrisey songs are to ffxi.

nice one. Where can I hear the acustic version

[Rodin]

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You'd be surprised to see that your best female friend IRL is usually the one who would make the best relationship with you, if you're a guy.

I was bent on finding the perfect girl for a long term relationship. I looked everywhere, but where I live, women are crazy (I've had to get 3 restraining orders in 2 years, had 3 girls try to kill themselves, two drop out of the high school I was attending, and one run away to New Jersey from where I lived in Pennsylvania).

I didn't expect my best friend to be that girl, but I had a realization, that she was always by me, through the good times, bad times, she even wore my extra Jersey to all my football games.

If you want a long-term, and meaningful relationship, look at the people closest to you first. Because there's always that girl who has the crush on you but are too embarrassed to act on it.

[Raitox]

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I waited... and I found someone. I say, be patient, and someone will come to you.

[Shopee]

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You'd be surprised to see that your best female friend IRL is usually the one who would make the best relationship with you, if you're a guy.

I was bent on finding the perfect girl for a long term relationship. I looked everywhere, but where I live, women are crazy (I've had to get 3 restraining orders in 2 years, had 3 girls try to kill themselves, two drop out of the high school I was attending, and one run away to New Jersey from where I lived in Pennsylvania).

I didn't expect my best friend to be that girl, but I had a realization, that she was always by me, through the good times, bad times, she even wore my extra Jersey to all my football games.

If you want a long-term, and meaningful relationship, look at the people closest to you first. Because there's always that girl who has the crush on you but are too embarrassed to act on it.

Problem is, with most girls, once you get locked into 'friend' or, moreso, 'close friend' status, there is very little way out. A lot of women (in my experience and in a lot of guys') will put you on a list of 'friend', greatly decreasing the probability they'd have any sort of romantic interest in you. In most situations it isn't good for your chances to be the close friend of your romantic interest (before getting into a relationship, of course).

Ironically, I find guys will sometimes get exceptionally romantic about their close female friends, and consider them an ideal partner.

Great it worked out for you Rodin,

My sentiments are in agreement with those who are saying it's best not to look for romance here.

Games can be great places for socialization and friendship, but the problem is romantic relationships require more maintenance than enjoyable conversations in /tell or /linkshell.

[Hamlet]

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In most situations it isn't good for your chances to be the close friend of your romantic interest (before getting into a relationship, of course).

I don't know, in all of my relationships that meant anything and lasted for a decent period of time (a year or more), I was friends with the girl for at least a month or so before we started dating.

[Rodin]

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Problem is, with most girls, once you get locked into 'friend' or, moreso, 'close friend' status, there is very little way out. A lot of women (in my experience and in a lot of guys') will put you on a list of 'friend', greatly decreasing the probability they'd have any sort of romantic interest in you. In most situations it isn't good for your chances to be the close friend of your romantic interest (before getting into a relationship, of course).

This can't be farther from the truth. There are many friendships that have a lot of romantic friction in them. Usually one person is just too dense to see the advances from the other person. That's why many times when people are inebriated they blurt out crazy things. (I had a friend I considered like a sister, she got drunk and asked "Why aren't we together?") Honestly, you're usually friends with a girl before you start dating. I have NEVER gone up to a girl out of the blue and asked her out (Most guys who do this usually get shot down).

[Shopee]

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This can't be farther from the truth. There are many friendships that have a lot of romantic friction in them. Usually one person is just too dense to see the advances from the other person. That's why many times when people are inebriated they blurt out crazy things. (I had a friend I considered like a sister, she got drunk and asked "Why aren't we together?") Honestly, you're usually friends with a girl before you start dating. I have NEVER gone up to a girl out of the blue and asked her out (Most guys who do this usually get shot down).

We're using the term 'friend' in different manners I believe. The friend classification used by women that hurts your chances is not the same as the friend classification of "I know you and we like to hang out" or close derivatives thereof. Going up to girls out of the blue isn't a particularly good idea either (from what I can tell).

Generally, it very much coincides (and almost necessitates) the 'nice guy effect'. The establishment of a direct and strong emotional bond in the sense of 'friend' (being there for her emotional needs, always being able to talk about personal issues etc...) will, in my experience and in the experience of many other people, often get you tossed out of viable relationship material range.

That's not to say there aren't many to a good amount of exceptions, however, it does happen a reasonable amount of the time.

(We seem to have very different experiences, so I doubt this discussion will be resolved)