Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

[Icemage]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

Looking for a relationship in this way is just... not... healthy. I'd worry about any person who projects all of the qualities asked for, because no such perfect person exists.

If they can project a "virtual self" that fits this mold, they're such good liars that you can't tell, and do you REALLY want to be emotionally involved with someone like that?

Turn the argument around and ask the question - do you really want to get involved with someone who asks for these qualities?

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Excuse me while I wash off the miasma of emo-ism that's clinging to me just for reading this thread now.


Icemage

[Kuroneko]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

Instead of asking for a boyfriend or possible/future in-game husband, why not just ask for a male friend that you can really depend on? I know what you are asking for and why you are asking for it, but unless you are able to find a RP linkshell with someone willing to do this for you... I just don't know of anyone who would jump the gun on this kind of adventure. Helping each other, sure, but your idea of what a husband can or should be is a little overbearing and demanding for a game that is time consuming in of itself. Don't get me wrong here. What you said about:

"I believe that a good husband (RL and in game) should take care of his wife’s finances as well as her heart and body so she can love and take care of him.(What’s the point of having a hubby if I’m making all the gil and taking of myself… that’s like saying “Marry me so you can watch me take care of myself”)"

is definitely something I can agree with to a certain extent (I think a relationship should be 50-50; both partners should help in taking care of each other's and their own finances), but I just can't see it working in a game unless the participant is willing to do this on their own violation and not at the urging of another.

[TheGrandMom]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

Looking for a relationship in this way is just... not... healthy. I'd worry about any person who projects all of the qualities asked for, because no such perfect person exists.

If they can project a "virtual self" that fits this mold, they're such good liars that you can't tell, and do you REALLY want to be emotionally involved with someone like that?

Turn the argument around and ask the question - do you really want to get involved with someone who asks for these qualities?

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Excuse me while I wash off the miasma of emo-ism that's clinging to me just for reading this thread now.


Icemage

Totally agree.

[Siber]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

This post deserves a "lol." I wish I had seen it sooner, but I generally look over these kinds of things.

I agree with Icemage in that this is "not healthy," even though I'd have used more flavorful language. There's either a penis lookin' for laughs or a lot of emotional baggage at the other end of Michelle Dragonwolf's account. Anyone who seriously wants a relationship over a game like this should take the time to get to know each other first and not say "Hey you! Wanna get hitched and pretend to devout yourself to me for three hours a day but take it totally seriously since I have problems and need someone to be there for me 24/7 because it's too hard to be there for myself?" Is it okay during those alloted three hours for the guy to do what he wants? There's a line between role-play and fucked up, and I think this crossed it.

This thread is rediculous, but worth the bump just because of how stupid it is. Taskmage, you're crazy. The qualities may be that of a good friend, but a good friend isn't something you pick up in 27 minutes and ask for on an internet forum. It is -not- and no matter what you say will not change that. A good friend is someone you can trust and is always there for you, and to blindly trust someone with anything like this over the internet is stupid. If she were lookin' for a friend and wasn't so picky, it'd be okay. Instead, she wants a guy who'll marry her in game and act as if it's a real marriage. For some reason, I don't think SE had any of this in mind when they implemented marriage. Maybe the ideas she wants whatever unlucky bastard who agrees to this to have, but they certainly did not want things to happen in this manner. This is going to end badly if it ever starts.

This love:

* is patient
* is kind
* is not envious
* is not boastful
* is not proud
* is not rude
* is not selfish
* is not easily angered

* is not a grudge-keeper
* is not an evil thinker
* is not a fan of evil
* rejoices in truth
* protects
* trusts
* hopes
* perseveres

This man is non-existant and not human.

[Taskmage]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

Aye, aye. An internet forum is not a good place to find mature, compassionate men, nor is it a good place to choose someone to put your trust in wholeheartedly. I don't know where in this world would be a good place to look for that kind of person, but this is not it. People are right to be suspicious of this kind of thing, given how readily some others might use a ploy like this to take advantage of someone. However I can think of at least two other people just looking at the Super Mods who would say I put too much faith in others' better natures for my own good, so I know where the OP is coming from. I submit that the person on the other side of the text isn't broken or twisted, but just has too much faith for her own good:

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

She's just asking for someone to try to live up to what she believes in, if only to pretend. At least, that is what I choose to believe.

[tetsuol]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

dude dont force feed religeon please thats a MAJOR abuse of mod powers

[Taskmage]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

Dude, shut up. Nobody's forcing you to believe anything. I recognized MD's list as coming from the bible and I quoted the passage it came from as an illustration of her faith. You've got a hard sell to make if you want to say I'm trying to force a religion that isn't even mine on you.

[neighbortaru]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

dude dont force feed religeon please thats a MAJOR abuse of mod powers

lol!

anyway, this thread has gone on long enough.

Michelle, please be understand that this site is not a "match-up" service. If you want to find your special someone in the game, please do so in the game. This really isn't the appropriate place for that.

[TheGrandMom]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

dude dont force feed religeon please thats a MAJOR abuse of mod powers

Force feeding you would be to hold you against your will and make you read/listen to/participate in a religion that is not your own. It's your CHOICE to read this thread, no one is forcing you so like Taskmage said.......STFU

Edit: Oops sorry Neighbor, I have a tendency to open several threads and putz around before I read them, I didn't realize you had closed it......didn't think I could post in a closed thread either!