Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

[Omniblast]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

Ok ok ok, stop crying now. If your ever on Remora and need a friend or someone to talk to, look me up. Calm down, no need go suicidal. Ok? People just have stuff crawlin' up their butts all the time. (Crawler's Nest? hehe)

We arn't trying to be-little you or anything, I just think that some of us guys are a little more reserved when it comes to online relationship with a motive. It's not surprising that some people take advantage of others.

[Omni]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

yea... i think there's been way too many threads where so and so stole my items or such and such took all my gil... most of them were due to the fact that a irl guy character thinks he has something going on with a irl girl character (regardless if the girl is really a girl or not) lots of people have been hurt by this.

cant blame people's skepticism when it comes to online things with all the fraud that's going aruond these days.

[Kasmn]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

I think I'll just make a new post looking for people to play with :p

[sdillon]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

... Ma'am, I suggest perhaps trying an Role Play board or Linkshell. Since you mentioned your PC is not up to snuff, here are a few that I found just by searching google.com:

http://www.ffxionline.com/forums/cer...laying.ls.html

http://vnboards.ign.com/diabolos/b22556/73766513/p1/?14

http://vnboards.ign.com/ffxi_linkshe...851/r95415673/

http://forum.aceboard.net/?login=183123

Some things to note:

1. Though FFXI is a 'role playing' game, a large majority of the current FFXI consumer base regards 'blatant' role playing as 'weird' and 'out of character'. To play your character itself in the environment that's not the real world is considered the 'role play'.

2. To avoid opening yourself up for further attacks I do suggest making general friends in the game and then perhaps finding someone who likes RPing as well, finding friends with mutual interest will lessen the 'heckling'.

3. Good luck in your search and hope you find what you're looking for. But in the future, it may be wise to consider the nature of the forums and their target audience before posting certain types of content. If you are unfazed by negative responses (everyone has a right to post their thoughts on a public matter in a forum), then feel free to post anywhere. It seems however that you're being greatly effected by this and the best way is to stop showing openings for more attacks.

Again, good luck and godspeed.

[TheGrandMom]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

Courtesy? If you can't say something nice ...

That and if you don't support a thread's existence, don't give it life by bumping it and giving others something to reply to.

I was courteous, if I had said what I really wanted to then you'd would have a point. Different people express themselves differently so you do it your way and I'll do it mine. When people post of such a personal matter on a public forum you'll get all types of answers so deal with it.

Trust me, the thread would have been bumped on its merit alone, its not like it was dead and I gave it life. Something like this is always a hotbed of activity.

[Taskmage]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

You asked why you should bother keeping your post mature when you don't consider the thread to be mature, and I gave two reasons. I don't take issue with your original post, but when I scanned the replies I saw two that were specifically mature and evenly delivered. That just wasn't one of them. I'm sorry if I offended you.

[Michelle Dragonwolf]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

Michelle’s Final Say…



/em puts herself together and becomes her dragon self one more time



Hello to all of you.



I can understand where you are coming from… now THIS is where I’m coming from.



I believe (in the game and in RL) that a husband should stand up and be a man, take the lead (in kindness) and do what is right (not what is easy) for he’s wife and there family. A husband must visibly and verbally put love into action if he expects his wife to be willing to follow his lead.



I believe that a wife should see this love and step down from the head of the relationship and take a stand by her husband’s side. (Not by being a doormat but by being submissive, loving and supportive)



This is why marriage is low and live ins are up, is because instead of two people being one, it’s two separate people just living under one roof.(Not your rights and my rights but what is right for us)



Yes a marriage is about two people but instead of each other’s separate dreams and goals it’s our dreams and goals together as one.



Why do I make a big deal about just a game? Because the point is not that “it’s just a game” but it’s the ideas behind the game. (There is an option to get married, it’s that word and what it means to players that I’m making my point… this is not just another quest or mission to do, but a different way of playing, a different view of looking at this game)



I am playing the role of a wife. (Caring, loving, modest, faithful, kindhearted, considerate, sensitive … these are all feminine characteristics that I’m playing)



I’m trying to find someone (RL male or female, it doesn’t mater… this is a Real Life idea in a game, not real life situation, if a guy can act like a girl in a game or a girl can act like a guy in a game… it’s doesn’t matter what gender you are in RL… if you can pull it of well… do it) to play the role of the husband. (Leadership, humble, reliable, responsive, devoted, thoughtful, unselfish… this is masculine characteristics that I’m looking for)



Servant leadership.

The title of this may sound like a contradiction of terms. Servant leadership seems to fit in with the absurd categories of frigid heat, smooth roughness, dry wetness, light darkness, friendly animosity, or ignorant intelligence. The words servant leadership could be contradictory, depending on how they are defined. But in the Right terms, leadership does not mean dictatorship, nor is a servant someone who is mindlessly subservient to every whim of a master.



What kind of servant hood are we talking about?

Leadership is responsible, compassionate, understanding, accountable, competent, respectable, authoritative, pioneering, exemplary, and God-fearing. Being a leader does not mean making all the decisions. Nor does it refer to being the "boss" in marriage or society at large. Leadership implies taking initiative, accepting responsibility, and shouldering the weight of accountability.



Should men expect women to "heel, roll over, and play dead" when men are around? Must men be the initiators of ideas and actions, and must women sit back or follow from a respectable distance? Should we think of women like some people think of children, that they should be seen and not heard? But that is not what good women expect.



Why is a servant attitude so important? Leadership without loving service produces an unbalanced, hideous creature. To be willing to take the role of a servant requires deliberate acts of love. The kind of man worth following expresses this.

This love:

• is patient
• is kind
• is not envious
• is not boastful
• is not proud
• is not rude
• is not selfish
• is not easily angered

• is not a grudge-keeper
• is not an evil thinker
• is not a fan of evil
• rejoices in truth
• protects
• trusts
• hopes
• perseveres

A man who expresses that kind of love won't have trouble finding a wife, family, or people who would be more than willing to submit to his leadership. Yet for many men, showing that kind of love may seem threatening. Such love requires that a man become vulnerable to being hurt and rejected, that he put aside his pride and humble himself for the good of others.

Men, are you willing to accept the challenge? You have a tremendous responsibility and great opportunities to set the pace, to be an example not only in your gender but in my thoughts about man as well.

Yet you ask “But this is only a game” yes you are right but… don’t you think you can learn to be a good or a better husband by playing like one with me? (Or do you think you know all there is to know about it and playing like one is a waste of time and no fun)

Michelle Dragonwolf… over and out

[Caspian]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

Well atleast you know what you want.
If you think this is will make you happy, then give it a whirl. Be aware its going to be extremely difficult to find someone who feels the same way you do.
Also, pretending to be a husband or wife ingame is a far cry from the real thing. You can call it practice, but its far too different. Ever been in a long distance relationship? I kinda think ingame marriages are a lot like that. Thing are peachy when the person you care about is in another city. Granted it sucks not being able to see them all the time, but its that very thing that lets these types of relationships last such a long time. There's very little fighting that goes on. Because how often do you see someone you care about, who you haven't seen in awhile and immediately pick a fight? Its very easy to get the illusion of happiness when there's no real stress to it. Infact, a lot of these things can be accomplished by just remaining good friends. You get someone who will listen to you, talk to you, and care about you, w/o adding in all the little things that make it so hard to keep together. You give your friends a lot of slack in doing things you don't like, but a gf or bf only gets an inch or so (and rightfully so). You have some good ideas when it comes to marriage, but I hope you aren't fooling yourself into believing that being a good husband or wife in ffxi somehow lends credit to being a good one in real life.

[Michelle Dragonwolf]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

Anyway I’m not looking for THAT much nor would be a clingy wife… yet you are right in a way, some people may not have a strong wall separating RL from FF11 and would want something deeper that I don’t want. (I want a light husband with a deep understanding of what it is to be in a married life.

But for me I'm thinking back to when I played family when I was little.(In a way)... I loved it ^.^

[Macht]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

One thing I have to say, there is just way to much negetive reaction to the person original intent. Tetsuol you of all people with the posts you've put on here I could just as easily take them apart and quote out stuff to make you like you are trying to BS this Forum as well. Remember your comments with the GM hassel you had.

Proving this posters intent to be what they really are is a very difficult challenge, about the only 100% proof you'd ever get is if you met them IRL. So to that point don't try to judge it, if I thought a female would actually respond if I made something similar to this I would of probably done the same.

It all just comes down to your belief are you or have you chosen to close your mind to such a possibility or open-minded to see it still even if it turns out bad. Depends on your own strength of will and your own faith in people.

Please though at current time the OP hasn't done anything to really warrent such bad reaction. So play nice everyone.

EDIT:

To add I only skimmed through the section, sorry but a lot of the writting seemed repetative so I didn't bother to read it all. Though I read enough to get a feel of what was happening on the thread, if it's already been delt with then all I can say is "Oops!"

To the point of person getting duped out of their money, items, or whatnot it's their own fault. If you get someone that wants to be your "Online Significant Other" then why ruin the time you two can enjoy together going somewere and killing stuff to farm. If they are going to level why not get a job around their level as well so you can both enjoy eachother company and work together to level up.

If it's items from an event then why not tag along with them to help them get the item instead of just giving it to them, that way you don't get yourself cheated and if the other person really wanted you present to just have someone to enjoy the game with you'll actually be there.

If that wasn't their true intention it'll become quickly apparent with the more they demand from you and the less they do to help you as well.

[valru]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

look me up when your a elvaan women=p

[ultimaknight]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

Macht does bring up a good point. Farming with someone for an item would be something nice or going on item runs or quest. That's a good way to be supportive, not to mention if both go after an item that is in demand and don't need it...just sell it and use the proceeds to buy something nice. Kinda like some of the LS do...or so I hear

My posts were not to imply that this was some sort of scam to get money. I can understand wanting to role play while in a role playing game. And I can understand wanting someone to support you while you are playing and wanting to support someone else as well. It's a very noble idea...and I can respect that.

Everyone plays this game for different reasons and seek to accomplish their own objectives. I do hope everyone who decides to play this game the best from their experiences. And I do hope the best finding a player to fill the role as her husband.

[tetsuol]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

ok this isnt a flame but a personal thought "which i was told its ok to have my own opinion and share it but not to flame"

ok heres MY thoughts

1. "she" keeps useing "/em stats to cry" "/em wipes her tears of utter deppression from the cheek of inncumbrance on the day of forgiveness blahblahblah" ok i for one cannot take anyone seriously who conveys emotions through '/em" on a FORUM!!!!

2. her post about her husband not mattering if its a guy or girl makes me wonder if "she" is a "he"

3. she said in one post she needs a husband to take care of her financialy. heck she said it at least twice.. THEN she said otherwise after i pointed it out


ok thats it for now.. no flames just my thougts.. i know i cant be the only one thinking this

[Michelle Dragonwolf]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

Thank you, thank you, Macht...you have given me some hope that there are people in here that can realize what the core idea is in the first place. It’s the relationship it’s self, not the stuff.

Sure I know that there are people that go out of there way to scam and cheat just to profit off on others who fall for it… I see this as being one of the worst things one can do to somebody else because it sours the game for the victim.(And chances are if that person’s will isn’t strong enough to take that type of loss… he or she may choose to quit the game forever)

YET… the reason that I was so emotional was because the name of myself and my character was being tarnished by of all this hate and detestation before I even took my first steps into this game.

That hurt a lot, but I got over it and fought again and again to try and put myself back in a better light with you guys.

And it looks like the tides of this war are settling down which I am so glad.

[Mog]

Re: Will be on soon, looking for someone to be with

Like everyone else said,

1. find a good roleplaying linkshell

2. meet a lot of friendly people online and network yourself.

Frankly, it's a bad idea to post this on a forum. I, along with the majority of people don't know who you are, and after seeing all the crazy scams going on, people are skeptical and it's really sketchy what intentions you have.

Don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to discredit you. All I'm saying is that you need to join a roleplaying linkshell on your own server, and just be friendly to whoever you meet.

If your heart is bent on meeting someone online, don't shower him with a list of what you expect from him. Just feel it out, and if you think he's a cool guy, go for it.

Hope that helped.