Blind invite?

[Lunaryn]

Re: Blind invite?

In my experience, about half the time a silent decline to a blind invite will just solicit a repeat of the invite. At that point you generally have to explain outright that you are not going to accept a blind invite (and likely solicit offense, such as the demands to take off lfg mentioned above).

[Murphie]

Re: Blind invite?

In my experience, about half the time a silent decline to a blind invite will just solicit a repeat of the invite. At that point you generally have to explain outright that you are not going to accept a blind invite (and likely solicit offense, such as the demands to take off lfg mentioned above).

While it's true that they often resend the blind invite, you're under no obligation to explain. Just decline again. If they ask why, I'll tell them. Otherwise, I don't bother.

[Irisjir Callard]

Re: Blind invite?

Personally, I think _______>>: pt? is just about as rude as a blind invite. Maybe it's because at my level there are a lot of sorts of parties that are NOT experience/merit parties, and I like some specifications of what I'm joining. I don't want to join your exp party if you're going to do a few assaults "Real quick" first...and yes...I have had this one come up. I don't want to join your ToAU mission party to help out if you're going to wait for the guy that needs it to get done camping argus first. I'm ESPECIALLY not going to join a party if we're waiting for one of the members to wake up from her nap and log into the game...although I feel VERY sorry for the e-boyfriend who got told if he didn't have an exp party waiting for his 'lady' when she logged in, no cyberkisses.

I felt very sorry for him, but I disbanded anyway.


I don't ask for every detail of information right upfront, but I want to see a willingness to communicate. "pt" doesn't do that for me.

Call me a prima donna if you want. There are plenty of other leaders out there looking for a whitemage. I don't NEED your invite. And a lot of other people, and other jobs, feel the same way, which is why blind invites, especially at levels oh past 20, are usually declined out of hand.

[Murphie]

Re: Blind invite?

If the party leader isn't willing to tell me what the party setup is and where we are planning to camp, then I'm not joining.

I think that's pretty reasonable.

[Irisjir Callard]

Re: Blind invite?

If the party leader isn't willing to tell me what the party setup is and where we are planning to camp, then I'm not joining.
I think that's pretty reasonable.

I want to know where the pt is right now, too, although /sea all _______ helps with that. If the party is standing around whitegate (or Jeuno/Rabao/Selbina), at least on Midgardsormer, that means people are still going to be arguing about which camp to go to, and a high likelihood that the party is going to split apart because three people refuse to go anywhere except caedevera mire (or other highly popular camp spot), even though there are 80 people in the zone, and two other people refuse to go to the mire, even though at least one of the other three doesn't have any staging points besides azouph (Or the outpost, or the tele-crystal) and of course everyone else won't be bothered to let someone guide the poor guy overland.

Although that's not so much the approach as the negotiations, so I'm wandering off-topic.

(Edits to make the whole argument less endgame-specific, because the idea applies to all levels, but her wording was REALLY bad)

[Murphie]

Re: Blind invite?

Well, that party sounds like it's full of idiots. I wouldn't join that party anyway. I prefer a party that is still in town, however, because then I know I'm not a replacement, and that I have a bit of input into where we go.

[Irisjir Callard]

Re: Blind invite?

Most of midgard is full of idiots. Getting away from them is about the same thing as soloing.

[Solymir]

Re: Blind invite?

Now I know, and knowing is half the battle!

I miss GI Joe. Ah, to be a kid again.

Many have already answered, but I just wanted to agree with those that said ignoring the blind invite is the best way to not be rude in return.

[Theyaden]

Re: Blind invite?

.,I've had a few times where I've been sent a tell indicating where the pt is and after replying with the sure or [Yes Please] a blind invite comes up. It wouldn't be so bad other than it blocks the legitimate invite I was expecting. Creates a bit of confusion while disbanding, requesting another invite from the correct group and me showing up as in party when the leader checks why I haven't joined yet. Blind invites I consider annpying I don't mind ones as short as pt as long as I'm asked.
btw Being a replacement isn't a problem for me since I've got to get used to the pt paterns in the 1st fight regardless as long as I can reasonably find the zone/camp area.