Blind invite?

[Evion]

Hello All,

What is a blind invite exactly? And, why is it considered rude? Please help.

Thanks,

Evion

[Omni]

Re: Blind invite?

its when someone sends you an invite without sending you a /tell first.

its considered rude because its just random i guess. most ppl want to be asked usually so they know whos inviting them and to see what job/rank the pt leader is.

its just an extended courtesy to ask someone first.

[Lunaryn]

Re: Blind invite?

Blind invites, particularly at dunes levels, are becoming extremely common, not to mention a lot of people building parties at these levels seem to take offense at being turned down (I've had a few people demand I take my flag down after refusing a blind invite).

A lot of people will refuse blind invites as a general matter of course (and party leaders who don't understand the resistance to blind invites generally also don't get most of the other things they need to know to be an effective party leader).

That said, I tend to be picky about parties anyway, particularly pre-30 where they tend to be distinctly crappier than usual. I'll usually check the inviter's subjob level before responding, and occasionally check that they don't have a PL (particularly after one jungles party I disbanded from in disgust because I was the tank and was repeatedly told not to take hate off the PL).

Most invites consist of a tell, followed by an invite command only if there is a reply indicating interest. These can be as terse as "pt?" but the general form is "{Experience Points}{Party}{Do you need it?}". I personally prefer to add in the camp zone (if determined) and the current party composition, but the latter is fairly rare.

[Freedan]

Re: Blind invite?

Blind Invites are like Blind Dates, just say NO to both!

[Arctic Wolf]

Re: Blind invite?

I couldn't care much. When I get a blind invite, it usually is like a warning to me. I don't decline the invite though just because the leader is "supposed" to /tell me first. I join and wait how the party goes.
Or, when I see more than two people spamming (too much) "rfl i r teh bst LOLz" I tend to leave.

[Murphie]

Re: Blind invite?

To me, a Blind Invite says "Hi, I don't have any interest in doing things the right way, but at least I have the courtesy of letting you know up front. This way, you don't have to accept my invite, and can keep doing whatever it is you are doing, without wasting any of your time trying to figure out if the party sucks or not."

They are pretty awesome like that.

[Srxjo]

Re: Blind invite?

i join the PT check the people that person has see if they are gimped subed if it looks good i say you know it's rude to blind invite people most people will turn you down, and when i'm not in a good mood for idoits i start ranting at the leader how he was rude and no one will join you that way, etc, etc and then disband

[Murphie]

Re: Blind invite?

i join the PT check the people that person has see if they are gimped subed if it looks good i say you know it's rude to blind invite people most people will turn you down, and when i'm not in a good mood for idoits i start ranting at the leader how he was rude and no one will join you that way, etc, etc and then disband

Wow, you kind of sound like an ass.

[Kirsteena]

Re: Blind invite?

I was on my 74 whm, and had my flag up. I decided to pass the time by going fishing on the ferry. I got a blind invite while waiting in Selbina. From a 17 subless warrior. Yeah.... And people wonder why I solo to 20 or so now.

[ItazuraNhomango]

Re: Blind invite?

Hmm. Maybe the best response to a blind invite is a blind decline? /decline, and move on.

Edit:

And, why is it considered rude?

It has always felt rude to me, though it took like a day for me to finally figure out why that's the case. Unfortunately, the reason is circular:

It feels rude to have my invitation declined (in-game and in-life) without an explanation, therefore, it also feels rude to be issued what amounted to a command to "enlist" without a single word beforehand.

/pcmd add Itazura without first asking if I'd like to join the party feels... cold.

[Srxjo]

Re: Blind invite?

Wow, you kind of sound like an ass.

i've just had it happen to me to many times but normly i'm nice to them i say 1 in 20 blind invites i ranted but i havent had one in ages

[Murphie]

Re: Blind invite?

Hmm. Maybe the best response to a blind invite is a blind decline? /decline, and move on.

That's what I do. I don't send the person a tell, I don't yell at them, etc. I just /decline, and move on with whatever I was doing. If they later send me a tell asking what's up, I'm happy to explain why I declined, but they generally don't.

edit: Srxjo - I just think it's kind of nasty to yell at someone for doing something like that. Yes, it's rude to blind invite, but you don't have to interact with them at all. If you join the party just so you can tell them what you think, then that's far ruder than any blind invite.

At least IMO.

[Kuro]

Re: Blind invite?

When I was going through the dunes last I took some blind invites, I don't care if the leader was smart and did it the right way, 90% of the time the rest of the members were equiped with lv 1 event equipment.

I don't take them post 24 though, they should have learned by then.

[Murphie]

Re: Blind invite?

Level 1 gear on people is why I'm glad I can solo to 20 or so.

[Evion]

Re: Blind invite?

Thanks for the posts! I have an understanding now. I have been playing for 2 months and was never told that it was rude and therefore didn't tell accordingly. Players that take the blind invites never say/said anything either. Now I know, and knowing is half the battle!