Here's a completely typical story about a "should have known better" situation.
Tonight I was hanging out in Kazham, looking for a party on my BLM26. To make a long story short, I ended up in a party with a BRD/NIN, WHM/SMN (I didn't realize he was /SMN til the party was almost over), NIN/WAR, and MNK/WAR. We kept switching sixth members as people never showed up, had to leave, gave up on our crappy party, etc.
And it was a crappy party. The BRD was pulling with Lullaby, which would have been great (and we did get some nice chains), except that the NIN and MNK would never let the mobs stay asleep. We tried to tell them about it several times, especially after the first full party wipe. But it never stuck. Also, the NIN had a katana with Poison effect, so once he attacked, there was no hope of resleeping.
We tried getting some skillchains going. At first Blade: Teki > Combo for Impaction. The MNK had clearly never skillchained (used WS at the same time as NIN), so we explained that, and after a while they managed to get a few. But then a second NIN showed up, so we switched to Blade:Rin > Blade: Retsu for Distortion (don't think that was a good idea, but I didn't want to argue). With our original NIN using Blade: Teki all the time, and the MNK interrupting the SC, I saw that land successfully once. Throughout the different setups of the party, the grand total successful SCs was four.
The BRD, WHM, and I were getting increasingly frustrated, sending each other tells about the other members. There was a lot of death. We'd tried to explain stuff several times, but we were all bitter ol' meany high-levels who were tired of this sort of thing. You never know how someone is going to react, so it's often easier to just bitch to each other.
Finally, after another party wipe, while we were waiting for the latest sixth member (another NIN) to show up, things boiled over a bit. The BRD finally just asked the NIN if he knew how to blink tank. The WHM made some comment, and the NIN asked "Have you got a problem with me?" The WHM said that yes, he did have a problem. The next thing the NIN said was "Well tell me what it is so I can fix it."
So the WHM and BRD told him everything he was doing wrong, and explained how to time the Utsu recast so he wouldn't lose it as much. He took it all in without complaint, and in the next fight, things went about as professionally as they could have. It was an amazing turn-around. We started tearing through Mandies the way you're supposed to, and taking gobs out without much hassle. Unfortunately, we got aggro from a goblin pop at one point, and a long string of small mistakes meant another full wipe, after which we disbanded.
So we'd partied with this ninja for almost three hours, gritting our teeth and complaining to each other, wondering what was up. Completely fell into the trap of thinking he was just another brat who didn't care enough to try. When really, all we would have had to do was say something earlier on. I feel like a complete moron, and really disappointed in myself. Hopefully this will sink in and I won't let myself get all bitter and cranky for good.
Tonight I was hanging out in Kazham, looking for a party on my BLM26. To make a long story short, I ended up in a party with a BRD/NIN, WHM/SMN (I didn't realize he was /SMN til the party was almost over), NIN/WAR, and MNK/WAR. We kept switching sixth members as people never showed up, had to leave, gave up on our crappy party, etc.
And it was a crappy party. The BRD was pulling with Lullaby, which would have been great (and we did get some nice chains), except that the NIN and MNK would never let the mobs stay asleep. We tried to tell them about it several times, especially after the first full party wipe. But it never stuck. Also, the NIN had a katana with Poison effect, so once he attacked, there was no hope of resleeping.
We tried getting some skillchains going. At first Blade: Teki > Combo for Impaction. The MNK had clearly never skillchained (used WS at the same time as NIN), so we explained that, and after a while they managed to get a few. But then a second NIN showed up, so we switched to Blade:Rin > Blade: Retsu for Distortion (don't think that was a good idea, but I didn't want to argue). With our original NIN using Blade: Teki all the time, and the MNK interrupting the SC, I saw that land successfully once. Throughout the different setups of the party, the grand total successful SCs was four.
The BRD, WHM, and I were getting increasingly frustrated, sending each other tells about the other members. There was a lot of death. We'd tried to explain stuff several times, but we were all bitter ol' meany high-levels who were tired of this sort of thing. You never know how someone is going to react, so it's often easier to just bitch to each other.
Finally, after another party wipe, while we were waiting for the latest sixth member (another NIN) to show up, things boiled over a bit. The BRD finally just asked the NIN if he knew how to blink tank. The WHM made some comment, and the NIN asked "Have you got a problem with me?" The WHM said that yes, he did have a problem. The next thing the NIN said was "Well tell me what it is so I can fix it."
So the WHM and BRD told him everything he was doing wrong, and explained how to time the Utsu recast so he wouldn't lose it as much. He took it all in without complaint, and in the next fight, things went about as professionally as they could have. It was an amazing turn-around. We started tearing through Mandies the way you're supposed to, and taking gobs out without much hassle. Unfortunately, we got aggro from a goblin pop at one point, and a long string of small mistakes meant another full wipe, after which we disbanded.
So we'd partied with this ninja for almost three hours, gritting our teeth and complaining to each other, wondering what was up. Completely fell into the trap of thinking he was just another brat who didn't care enough to try. When really, all we would have had to do was say something earlier on. I feel like a complete moron, and really disappointed in myself. Hopefully this will sink in and I won't let myself get all bitter and cranky for good.
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