My own husband blacklisted me -.-

[Feba]

Re: My own husband blacklisted me -.-

1) Feba, you're what, 14? Please refrain from telling people to get divorces over things like this. -.-;;; You're probably too young to know the difficulties of RL relationships, so it's best if you hold your silence.

1- Wrong, Please refrain from guessing peoples ages. You're don't know anything about the real me, so it's best if you hold your silence.
2- I didn't say to get a divorce over this. I reccomended it if he actually acts like that much of an asshole to her, as in consistantly.
3- Wow, young people have no idea how relationships work! No wonder! I guess that creepy 40-year-old-uncle-lives-in-the-basement-and-eats-your-cheetos must know plenty because he meets a certain age requirement you've set as being mature enough, huh?

[TheGrandMom]

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Well, I can see how you wouldn't see it from his perspective, because you're relating to the OP as a married player, but try for a sec. Basically, your wife is there siding against you over something unimportant in-game (and ultimately COMPLETELY unimportant because IT'S JUST A GAME, unlike your marriage, which is REAL). Top onto that the fact that he is seperated from her and hasn't seen her for awhile, adding stress, and I can see where he's coming from. It's not really condonable, but understandable.

He wasn't warping out of the party because he wasn't getting his way, he was warping to show his wife he was pissed.

While I can understand his feelings, he has no right to impose that upon 4 other innocent people. He could have politely said "I'm not up for this guys so please find a replacement." and blisted his wife and not had to deal with her. But to just up and warp out, is immature and shouldn't be tolerated. I would never pt with him again either if that is how he deals with things.

[Darkhound]

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Feba,

you are a good poster my friends. lets move on...
Anyway, do you agree with me that this game is a social phenomenom?

[TheGrandMom]

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The game effects different people differently...as it should. Some people look at it as a form of entertainment for them and don't care that there are real people at the ends of the other characters. So they just act like a-holes and don't care if they go against the boundaries of what society deems "the correct way to act". They are just in it to have fun.

Then there are others that make friendships with others via the game. Sometimes close enough to meet in real life. They care about their fellow players and follow the "the correct way to act" most of the time. They like to socialize more and that is a huge part of what the game is to them.

There are also people who are in it to "beat the game". They want to lvl up many jobs, get to endgame and do all the cool stuff, they want all the sweet armor and weapons, and they are usually very good at making gil. The game is more like a mission to them instead of entertainment. They are much more serious about it's intricacies and easily offended when something/someone doesn't work out.

There are just many different perspectives about how to perceive the game and there will never be a universal answer to "Is it just a game, or do we take it too seriously?" Everyone will have their opinion and for them its the correct one. It's just what makes the human race so diverse and makes the game so interesting.

[Ellipses]

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I wouldn't call the game a social phenomenon. It's part of a social phenomenon called "the internet," but I really don't see anything that separates FFXI enough to consider it even a tiny bit unique in that regard.

[Feba]

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This game, not really, the internets, definieeeetly.


Even if you don't realize it, you act different online. Probably the lack of rules, and manners, to an extent. Partly because you don't really have any fear.



I could call you an ignorant fucktard right this second, and have no worries about you kicking my ass. I like to call it "Cyber-Drunk".

[Darkhound]

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I agree that most people tend to act different on the internet. Who they want to really be, or who they really are. Like you mentioned it, the lack of rules, morales etc makes it much easier to show one's true colors.

[Aksannyi]

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Okay, let me please clarify for everyone. My husband and I are fine, and we have very few real life issues. I honestly don't know what he got his panties in a bunch for, and if he were just in another room I would have asked him, "Hey, what the f?"

Since I saved the chat log in Paint (I don't have whatever it is that you guys use to take screenshots), I couldn't get more than one part of the log saved on there. You guys also didn't get to see where the rest of the party members blamed him for curse, where he told the other players to "quit being babies" because we'd be fine against such "easy" mobs. Another party member said, "Well, then, fine, why dont' you pull?" to which he replied, "{No thanks.}" Basically at this point, he had the perfect opportunity to STFU, but he kept going.

That's when I started with, "Allright, kids ... lol" and "Okay, well let's just stop arguing and go back to pulling." He sent me some tells about how the other guy was a jerk, and I told him he wasn't being much less of one, and that's when he got mad. But he WAS being a jerk, and I'm nothing if not honest with him. So yeah, he got pissed at me and used the Warp Cudgel. And when I told him, "F*** you," it was because we both know how immature he was being. I also tell him that (jokingly) about 15 times a day, so I don't know why this particular time was so upsetting.

I guess he was just having a bad day, but I've just been letting him cool of for a bit and I'll talk to him later. But I'm not worried about our relationship. Other than in-game, we get along great. LOL.

[Araius]

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Maybe he was drunk

Just shows how people can come across as completely different people in game than in real life, I suppose.

[LyonheartLakshmi]

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So I told him hey, don't worry about it, just calm down and we'll keep pulling.

I can sympathize with the husband to some degree. It really upsets me when my fiance tells me "Don't get mad" or something to that effect. Rather than helping with my anger, comments like that only add to it! No one likes to be told how to feel. Saying things like "just calm down" make me feel like my feelings are wrong.

It's true that life is mostly about how you take things that are thrown your way, and the husband could have reacted differently to the situation. But he didn't react in a better way. Putting pressure on him to feel differently (not simply just behave differently) so close to the incident doesn't really help matters.

It's like telling a person who's depressed and has a poor self image that they're suffering from too much pride (since they are consumed with themselves, rather than focusing on others). Is it really going to help them overcome their depression by making them feel even worse about themselves?

[OnionWarrior]

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Glad to hear you and your husband worked things out... but I still say that you should avoid partying/questing with him in game if not forever just for a little while to teach him a lesson.

On another note, I'm greatly enjoying Feba's attempt to backpeddle after his ignorant comments. ^^

[Deeman]

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...Wow, how sad is your life when u post things like this on a gaming forum? lol If u have a kid and other responsibilities, take care of those and quit playing. Cause obviously a child is a lot more important than...whats this....fighting over a skillchain?

[Feba]

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Is that spiderman doing Thriller?

[pErFeCt 34]

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Listen I don't mean to give people my own views uninvited but is it really approiate that you share this with us? This seems like something between you and your husband not something you should just go share around this website willy nilly. I don't mean to be a prude but I think your doing this just to get attention sweet heart.

[Randwolf]

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...Wow, how sad is your life when u post things like this on a gaming forum? lol If u have a kid and other responsibilities, take care of those and quit playing. Cause obviously a child is a lot more important than...whats this....fighting over a skillchain?

Raising a kid is more important then collecting stamps, rebuilding an old jalopy, planting flowers, etc. So, Deeman, back the f**k off. Either you don't have kids or you are on here against your own advice. Pick one. Did you just drop in here to flame the OP or do you think people with kids shouldn't have any hobbies. And at least they are doing something together. Sure, not a good expereince for them this time but I have seen husbands and wives arguing in the grocery. Should they never shop for food because they had a tiff while grocery shopping?

She comes in here to share her story, for whatever her reasons, and you jump down her throat. And, yes, your comment made me all emo. But, oh well, I'm not going to sit here and watch someone else get all judgemental.

Am I being judgemental towards you? Yup. But I'm always right.